Honea Path, SC USA
Yes, true love does exist. One factor that I think people overlook is truly taking the time to get to know one another first. It's almost as if they expect that clap of thunder and lightning strike from the very beginning. Perhaps some people do. With me and my husband (we just got married 12 days ago!), it was a slow, steady progress. A warm, gentle rain that gradually increased in intensity until a full scale storm was raging within us both. When we exchanged our wedding vows, I completely broke down and sobbed when I said "You are my best friend and I love you." My husband is many things to me, fulfilling many needs. The most important role he plays is that of my best friend. He is the one I can turn to with any problem, he gives me support and unconditional love. Together, we have faced many hurdles. A lot of them would've torn other couples apart. Instead, they have brought us closer.
I think what gets in the way of some people's quest for true love is that they put up with things in a lover that they wouldn't tolerate in a friend. Why lower the standards for a partner? As a general rule, we expect our friends to be trustworthy, honest, to show respect for us, to comfort us when we are hurting, etc. And yet, many will date a person they describe as being "cold, sneaky, mean spirited" etc. Why? Better yet to fall in love with your best friend: the one who knows all your ugly little secrets and loves you anyway, the one who can laugh with you over life's little (and not so little) mishaps, the one who has seen you at your worst and still thinks you are beautiful.
Love as a gift? Yes it is. It's one that I've always given reluctantly. I have a problem with allowing myself to be vulnerable, to admit to needing anybody. There have only been 3 people (my husband and two children) that I've been able to love completely, without holding back. When you give completely of yourself to another, the rewards are great.