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PanDol Senior Member
since 2000-03-11
Posts 1245USA |
Have you ever been so In Love with some one that: it actually hurt? you feel like you're going to burst open at any moment? your feelings run so deep that you can't even put into words how you feel? ~PanDol |
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Marina Member Elite
since 2000-02-10
Posts 2245Pickering, Ontario |
YEP!!!! I was so in love with someone that I would have done anything for him. I was even stupid enough to let him change my mind about certain family members and sitautions with others. Unfortunitely sometimes to love someone that much usaully means that there is a MAGOR heartache on the way. At least I found that. I finally woke up morning literally, and called to say don't be home when I get there because I am packing and leaving. To love this deeply I have found, can mean you are clinging to the wrong kind of love that may not be love at all. Of course, I do believe that there are some couples that can make this kind of love a pure love that lasts forever, but I have unfortunitly never experienced it. Marina |
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Just A Woman Senior Member
since 2001-03-10
Posts 507 |
Unfortunately, that's the only way I do it. 
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JLR Senior Member
since 2001-02-04
Posts 1785 |
I don't think I've ever responded to anything in this forum before...but this one I couldn't pass up. An emphatic YES! A love so intense that when it ended it hurt not only the heart but the mind, body and soul. A physical ache so consuming that the only relief was to dull it, by either mindless activity or chemical intervention. Sleep was not an option. For me it manifests itself in another way also that I wonder if anyone else has experienced. When love ends and then...music hurts. I find it very difficult to listen to music. Not just those few songs that are a particular reminder but all music. Your last question, I'm not sure about. I write a lot about one particular experience with this, though I don't know that I have ever REALLY gotten to the depth of the feeling. I think I have probably touched on it with a line or two but not to the extent that you suggest. Thanks for a really good question about my favorite subject...painful or not! Speak when you are angry--and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret...Laurence J. Peter |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
To paraphrase Just a Woman. . . is there any other way??  Yes. . . I have. . . so much so that I've been used. . . but I never knew it. . . I just fell totally for this person. . . and my feelings and my heart were totally walked on. . . and when it ended, the fall down was hard. . . very hard. . . Like JLR, it hurt. . . it even hurt to listen to those songs. . . but I went on. . . I healed. . . it took a long time. . . but, I tried again. . . and again. . . never giving up. . . I guess that you could say that I was a glutton for punishment. . . but I knew that the love that I wanted was out there. . . and I know that it still is. . . So, out of stubbroness (well, that or stupidity, one of the two!! LOL ) I keep trying. . . and I know that I'll find it. . . it's not just a dream. . . and when I do. . . you'll know it. . . Great question PanDol. . . ----------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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LoveBug
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Member Elite
since 2000-01-08
Posts 4697 |
I'm loving like that right now, actually. Allow me to ask another question: have you ever loved somebody enough to let them go with another person with no hard feelings, because you'd rather see them happy, even if it isn't with you? If you've ever read my poetry, you'll know my answer!  "Men judge generally more by the eye than by the hand, for everyone can see and few can feel."-Machiavelli |
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JLR Senior Member
since 2001-02-04
Posts 1785 |
Lovebug---how about letting someone go to be with someone else...not so much because it makes them happy but because it is the decision he/she has made and is probably the 'right' thing to do...all things considered? Would that count...if so yes I have. Nonetheless--painful. I will have to be pulling up some of your poetry...sorry to say, I don't believe I've read any...though, I saw the pic of your car and I love it! Speak when you are angry--and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret...Laurence J. Peter |
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kitkat Senior Member
since 2000-01-11
Posts 878Nova Scotia |
Let me reply yes, yes and yes. I have only loved 3 men in my life. #1 was my husband who I was married to for 11 years. Now divorced for 12 that hurt. #2 Meet a man 7 years ago. He was really very kind to me and a good person.We were together for 6 yrs.Fell in love with the person I thought he was. Turned out to be not what I thought. I left him. I hurt him which in turn hurt me. I met a man almost a year ago. We are together right now. I Love him so much I think at times I am going to explode. The way he shows his love for me just blows my mind. When I first moved to be with him the whole town said thank you to me. That my man had and still does declare his love for me to everyone he meets. His friends told me they have never seen him so happy. At times I am at a loss for words to tell him how I feel. We have no secrets. We share everything. It is wonderful. I do not think my feet will ever touch the ground again!!!! True Love At last *sighs* -------------- |
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Acies
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Member Rara Avis
since 2000-06-07
Posts 7665Twilight Zone |
That just describes my last relationship all to well "So long as men can breathe or eyes can see, |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
Yes....and I got burned....first gf....3yrs....dumped....TWICE....cheated on..ONCE.....yep yep and I stayed....and I'm still with her....but we're not with any titles....we just date. Am I a fool? Of course.....Do I readily admit to this? I just did... Can I fix it? No...but I'm leaving for college in 4 months and I plan on that being my escape.... I'm just too attached to leave it completely for now. I suck.....really bad.... |
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Severn Member Rara Avis
since 1999-07-17
Posts 7704 |
Hell yes. Several times lol. All obscurity starts with a danger: |
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Dark Angel Member Patricius
since 1999-08-04
Posts 10095 |
OH YES Yes yes so bad I can't breath  Love which is not always springing is always dying. |
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Jamie Member Elite
since 2000-06-26
Posts 3168Blue Heaven |
Do Baptists pass the offering plate? There is society where none intrudes, by the deep sea, and music in its roar. |
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Temptress
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-06-15
Posts 7136Mobile, AL |
YES!!  still d-i-s-c-o-n-n-e-c-t-e-d |
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Nan
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
Love knows no logic...  |
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AngelShell Member
since 2000-03-01
Posts 446not heaven nor hell so... |
Yep, I have to go with Dopey here. Love bites. First b/f together for 2 years, dumped me for another chick but didn't TELL me for 3 months, then blamed me for it, THEN begged me to give him a reason to break of the engagement (with the girl he dumped me for) by telling me that he'd give it all up if I just told him that I loved him one more time. Second b/f together for a year, promised that he'd never do what my first had done, then promtly dumped me for some other chick. It's been down hill since then. I fall for the wrong guys at the worst time. I mean the lastest one was my friends on and off b/f...word of advice...NEVER GO THERE!!! The one before that was a friends brother. I can't seem to win. There's this guy that I love to bits right now (purely in a platonic relationship however) I mean, I've never loved someone like I love him and for the last 2 months I haven't heard from him except for the vacant replies here. AHHH! I HATE MY LOVE LIFE!!!!! |
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Jesse Jaymz Senior Member
since 2000-01-24
Posts 708Youngstown, ohio |
i am hurting like that now. so much pain deep down inside. i am willing to give this girl everytring i can. she says i say the exact same things her ex says. almost to the word. he dumped her. hard. and i did nothing but love her. yet she loves him and not me. *sigh* i hate my love liife too *is staarting to tear up* trust me pandol i know how you feel *hugs* love ya jesse All I feel is hurt and sorrow, praying it'll all be gone by tomorrow but as tomorrow rolls around, another tear hits the ground. |
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catalinamoon
since 2000-06-03
Posts 9543The Shores of Alone |
yes, yes, and it is still that way..I think what Sven said sums up my answer well, I always love unwisely and too well. And get hurt, deperately. But still I would never give up having had the experience of loving them. Sandra |
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Honeybee Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-26
Posts 5372Ontario, CANADA |
I am dealing with that right now and this is the only time that I have felt this deeply, and yes, you can still be in love with someone even when he has found another, I just want him to be happy even though I'm still miserable |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Melissa. . . I found that I wanted them to be happy too. . . I just wanted them to be happy with me. . . -------------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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Poet deVine
Administrator
Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
I used to, until I learned not to love. |
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LoveBug
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Member Elite
since 2000-01-08
Posts 4697 |
Oh come on Sharon! You know you love me!!!!! |
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Fading Away
since 2001-03-14
Posts 3131Lynchburg, Virginia |
LoveBug - Great question. I haven't ever been in that situation before, but I have thought about it. I thought about why I am keeping this person unhappy. The only way that person would be happy is if I let him go and be with who he really wanted to be with. It's almost like you're sacrificing your own emotions and your own heart for that significant other to be happy. I wish that situation never happens to me. If you're going through it then I'm sorry and all I can offer are my *Hugs* --Marie subconsciously, i think i can eat so much to make my stomach hurt, instead of my heart. |
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bsquirrel
since 2000-01-03
Posts 7855 |
Yes. Love can destroy you. And, reshape you into someone who won't be destroyed -- just changed. |
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Sinful_Steph Junior Member
since 2002-10-03
Posts 35Toronto, Ontario (Canada) |
I can relate to alot of you. My first love, I was with for 5 years, he constantly cheated and lied, but I stuck around. Now I'm in another situation. I'm in love with someone who I believe is in love with another. He sends all these mixed signals and I'm not sure what to believe. There is nothing I wouldn't do for him and he knows this. I think at times he even takes advantage of this fact. BUT, unfortunately, I can't muster the courage to leave. When and if he decides to walk out of my life, I can guarentee, many nights will be spent curled up with tears rolling down my face, slow music in the distance asking "why?". I often say I'd want him to be happy even if it meant pain for me....but truth be told...I don't think I could handle it. Only time will tell. Great question!!!! "Love me little, Love me long, Is the burden of my song" - Robert Herrick |
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Moonlight Romeo
since 2001-09-10
Posts 982The heart of you |
Yes, but this time, I have found the words. Thank you. What light through yon window breaks? It is the east, and Juliet is the sun. |
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Miah Senior Member
since 2002-08-26
Posts 1062Pennsylvania |
Yes. I am right now. |
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brian madden Member Elite
since 2000-05-06
Posts 4374ireland |
It means you either in love or you have a bad case of indigestion lol. seriously, I don't think there is any other way.... El riesgo vive siempre! |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
sigh |
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rascalx Senior Member
since 1999-08-25
Posts 590Florence, SC, USA |
Yes..I have loved that strongly...that deeply... and I still do |
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anonymousfemale Member Elite
since 2000-02-02
Posts 2797Limbo |
Only once and the guy nearly killed me. "It is far more difficult to murder a phantom than a reality." - Virginia Woolf |
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PanDol Senior Member
since 2000-03-11
Posts 1245USA |
"Yes..I have loved that strongly...that deeply... and I still do" My feelings exactly rascalx! ~PanDol |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
Woah, I just opened this thinking it was new and saw that I had replied to this more than a YEAR ago!!! WOAH!!!!!!!!!!! That reply was horrible. I was so pathetic. Wow..... Thank God I'm over that. Now: I'm single, and have been for a year. Nowhere close to being with another woman again. I can't. Oh well haha. |
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anonymousfemale Member Elite
since 2000-02-02
Posts 2797Limbo |
Dopey I am so glad to hear you say that. I know Acire will be too. *memories*   lol "It is far more difficult to murder a phantom than a reality." - Virginia Woolf |
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Nightshade
since 2001-08-31
Posts 13962just out of reach |
Of course!! Chris Life is not measured by breaths you take, but by moments that take your breath away. |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
haha thanks Liz. yeah life is going pretty good for me in the women dept. Who knows, maybe I'll find myself a someone in the next decade haha. |
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cherish Senior Member
since 2001-03-25
Posts 1639swimming in fairy floss........... |
woah...yes yes and yes and to erica's question"have you ever loved somebody enough to let them go with another person with no hard feelings, because you'd rather see them happy, even if it isn't with you?": yes. sheesh it kills when you do that, but you do it and it hurts even more. ESPECIALLY when they come back and tell you all about it too. you start to question their motives and become really withdrawn and balme yourself for letting it happen in the first place. Are you scared? |
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Fee Member
since 2000-08-07
Posts 381Melbourne, Australia |
Hey all, sorry its been awhile. Some of you may remember me, others not. Hope you don't mind, but thought I would give you another angle to this one... Finding this kind of love that consumes you with ever beat your heart makes, and having that person comsumed in you the same way that no word could express the intense emotions that run throughout your body, a scent in the air, a word somebody speaks, music on the radio all make you think of this person...... It is perfect beyond comprehension and yes I have been luck enough to find it.... BUT!!!!! Yep there is always a but. What if the circumstances around you stop you from being together. What if you had already chosen your life before meeting this person, what if they two have already chosen their life before meeting you. What if neither of you are living the life that you want to live and know that you deserve, yet for some reason you are still living it, without being with the one that consumes you. You and They know that you are perfect destiny... so where do you go from here. I guess sometimes life throws us challenges! Please dont judge me for I have already had the grand jury make their decission and convict me of either living a lie or lying to myself... I have been sentenced to a life of confusion. |
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Ethan Halo Senior Member
since 2000-04-28
Posts 793on the roof again |
to answer ya q, yes. a couple of times. but conversely, have you ever hurt so much you love whoever is around you? as SR-71 sings "she may not be Miss Right, but she'll do right now." that, of course, leads to more trouble...but sometimes, for a moment, the hurt is a little easier to deal with. it's our struggle for identity that leaves us all unknown |
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Michael
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-13
Posts 7666California |
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Smoothy Member
since 2002-12-02
Posts 119The dark side of the moon |
Yes, I currently am desperately in love with a girl I know. I don't see anyone but her. The one problem is that not only does she have a boyfriend, but she also likes this other guy. I know that she isn't the best girl out there, but I love her just the same...I just can't seem to tell her that. |
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HopelessRomanticGuy Member
since 2001-08-17
Posts 495LI, New York |
Bryan, Yep, I know how this feels... it's how I feel every single time I fall for someone, I mean I REALLY fall.... It's not healthy, and I try to stop, but its not something I can control... "You can't control how you feel for someone, but only what you do about it." I said those words so long ago, if only I knew then how true they were.... Later. -Rich "You can't hurt meee!! 'Cause I've got on my cheeeeese helmet!" |
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MidnightSon Member
since 2002-05-15
Posts 312between the gutter & the stars |
one day, you get hurt so bad, you decide it's better to be alone. and that's like a moment of nihility...a death of meaning in your life. and then the search for a meaning is a pain in the ass. and no one ever gets in... or maybe i'm the only cynical, bitter one that's given up on giving my heart.  through the ravages of sleeplessness lies the comfort of the night |
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