Member Rara Avis
You know, I've thought about what I posted before. I don't mean to sound heartless, or harsh.
I've been through this as well. I had a guy back in Jr. High that I hung out with all the time. I really liked him a lot. We finally did date, but funny thing is it was only a week. But even before and after that, we did everything together. He kept going out with my best friend at the time. And that hurt. Years later, he was supposed to ask me out again, and I was highly anticipating this. I was with a different girlfriend at the time, when I ran into him. I was waiting for this 'question,' and actually he ended up talking to her. Not only that, a few months later, they ended up getting married! Talk about crushed!!!
What was really hard, was my g/f asked me to be her maid of honor at the wedding. That was tough. They ended up in divorce shortly after that. He was into drugs, and shoved her down the stairs. I still have feelings for him though. It's just one of those things. But now that I look back on this all, I'm truly glad things turned out the way they did. I'm glad that I wasn't the one who married him!
So even though you hurt right now, this might just be the best thing. Maybe something you won't realize for years or maybe months to come.
So hang in there ok? Keep your chin up and give her room. Nothing wrong with letting her know you care. If this guy dumped her once, chances are he'll do it again. She just might wander back into your door.
[This message has been edited by WhtDove (edited 01-23-2001).]