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~*~PrettyGirly~*~ Member
since 2000-11-04
Posts 83Fitchburg Ma Usa |
Hi people this all started when I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago. He started talking behind my back, I pretend he doesn't bother me. But it does and all I do is cry, and want to die. I asked him once why are you so rude? he said nothing! That gets me mad, I go later and say Dave your hurting me he says how can I minna? I say because your not nice like you promised. He talks behind my back and acts so rude, I don't want to be his friend I don't think he'd care. I can't even smile at him anymore, because he gets me so mad. thanks for listening ~*~Minna~*~ |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
Well what can I say? First off the kid shouldn't be talking about you behind his back, but the fact that you are both broken up might cause a sense of bitterness within his mind. It's happened to me. I'd say just let time heal it all and soon enough this will all blow over.  I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. I hate your socks. I'd like to burn them! |
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Kevin Rose Member
since 2000-11-20
Posts 64Liverpool UK |
Dopey got this absolutely right, time is the healer. In the interim, however, do not let his actions alter yours. If he wishes to talk behind your back then he will talk. If it is with the intent to turn friends against you then he will not succeed if you just act as the same person you always have been, and if you are seen not to be lowering to his level. If friends chose to believe him over you, then they were not true friends in the first place. I myself had an ex who systematically went round everyone I introduced her to and said the most hateful things possible, and I allowed it to affect me, and I retaliated. All it did was to make her stories seem all the more real. friends did leave my side. But then I backed away and let them make their own choices, and to a person, they all saw through her stories, and when she had run out of things to say about me, they realised she had nothing to say at all. Every one remained my friend. Hang in there... It will blow over and you will be all the stronger for it. |
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SorrowsMystress Member
since 2000-04-01
Posts 178I'm a wanderer, a nomad...I don't live in one particular area, Just wherever I end up. |
I know all too well how this feels. Men (and yes, even women) can be such jerks! But, I'd have to agree with the others... time heals all wounds. It'll hurt, it'll hurt really bad for a while, but trust me, eventually, the hurt will go away, and you will come out of the situation having learned something... experience equals wisdom. Just don't let it get you too down. Keep your chin up, the best way to get over a man that does you wrong, is to love yourself and show them that you don't need THEM to give you confidence... and eventually, the things that he says behind your back you can just blow off. It sure does make them mad when they see and realize that when they try to hurt you, it doesn't effect you. And I know you'll see this and go "oh whatever..." (at least, I did the first hundred times I heard it), but once you actually do it, and see that it works... you'll be surprised. Keep strong... give yourself time to heal, and just remember, that if this guy can do something like that, then he's not worth your time or effort OR attention anyway. "It was my love that did us both to death. " -Sylvia Plath |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
Minna? The best revenge--the ONLY revenge? Is living HAPPY. And remember too...that if you drop your end of the rope? There is no tug-o-war.... Easier said than done, though, I know. (Please don't test me on this one! grin) Hugs to you lovie. |
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catalinamoon
since 2000-06-03
Posts 9543The Shores of Alone |
You know what, a lot of people don't understand how much they can hurt us, and a lot of them don't care, either. This just proves he was the wrong one for you, undeserving of your love. There will be someone better in your future. In the meantime, it's hard, I know. Hang in there. Sandra |
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