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0 posted 10-30-2000 11:33 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

My question is this: Is it possible to be in love with more than one person at a time? I'm just interested in your views......I have my own on this subject, and I 'll share them later. But I was just wondering what was thought of on this subject.......
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I think it is possible to love more than one, but you can only be in love with one.
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I think it's completely possible... the "heart" is a big organ [concept]. It will love as much as you allow it. You can be stingy and love only one, or less so and love many... "In" love... hmmm... possibly.. I don't see why not. Different people complement us in different ways. What we love in one person may not exist in another... but rather something else that we really love that doesn't in the former. Loving someone, I think, has much (if not all) to do with who they are and how they interact with you. So potentially, i think the answer is yes. However, this might fall along the lines of there being the possibility of writing many novels in one year. You can do it, but the quality suffers, because you aren't paying as much attention to it.

Just an op.

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An interesting question! I feel it depends on your point of view, for me the answer is NO. Yes, there are varying degrees of love, I think we would all agree to that point. But I see loving someone and being "in love" with someone as totally different things.

For me being in love is such an all consuming and intense feeling. Something that takes hold of you totally, to which you give totally. I am currently in love with someone and I know that I could not possibly have these feelings for two people at the same time. There is another that I care deeply for and have strong feelings for. I love her but am not "in love" with her.

Well for what they're worth they are my thoughts!


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4 posted 10-31-2000 09:17 AM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

Thank you Miapoetess,Christopher, and Eagle One for replying.......ok, my take on this is pretty much in line with you all.....I love many in my life.........I love truly and I love deeply, however......I am only "in love" with my husband....I know of people who say they have been in love with more than one person and I don't see how they could call it true love if it is for two people. At different times, sure fine, but not at the same time......ok, that's my say on it......thanks again for the replies   -SEA
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5 posted 11-01-2000 03:48 AM       View Profile for Mick Hawkes   Email Mick Hawkes   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mick Hawkes

i would say yes....
i love my wife ,my son , my twins , my dad , my brother and my sister... but do i love one "more" than the others?... each is a different love.. all to be held close inside...


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6 posted 11-01-2000 07:49 PM       View Profile for Moon Dust   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Moon Dust

Yep definatly love  as many as you want, maybe be in love with more than one person (at different times of course). But Only one is true.

Sometimes you have to let go and move on,
But never let go of the memories.

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7 posted 11-03-2000 02:23 PM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

Strong opinions on this one.......LOVE.
I'm the kind of person that will fight for love till death. I'm one of those old fashioned people. I don't take things lightly when it comes to love. So i firmly believe that you can only be IN LOVE with ONE person at a time. Maybe several during a life time but i mean.....the previous ones would have ended due to some unfortunate happening......anyway....I just believe that you can only be in love with one person at a time because i find it completely illogical to say that you are madly in love with two people. I think monogamy is the key thing when it comes to love, but hey....that's just me.



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In my experience, yes you can. It did happen to me, and it was a very tough thing, hard decision to make, and in the end the whole thing was ruined with both of them. But I did truly love them both, and I still care for them both 9 years after the fact.
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Love know's no boudaries
We've developed the limitations
To make sense of it-
Orderly and sensible.

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10 posted 11-16-2000 07:36 AM       View Profile for Romy   Email Romy   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Romy

I think you can, there are different kinds of love and maybe at a different level too.
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A supreme love that satisfies the souls highest needs shares it rhythm with but one other soul.


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12 posted 11-17-2000 03:26 PM       View Profile for Jannel   Email Jannel   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Jannel

i agree that you may only be in love with one, but you may love many. i also think that you may be able to love someone, and then come to find that what you felt was true love then, but not true love in what you now know.
the greeks had an interesting notion of love. they had three seperate words- maybe they are familiar to some of you from church things. they are philos (brotherly love), eros (passionate love), and agape (unselfish, self-sacrificing love) my personal belief is that they form a sort of triangle, with each type as a point. the point in the very center is true love, a perfect balance of friendship, passion, and self-sacrifice. there are however, other points in the triangle that are also ways of loving, only less perfect.

-end of jann's philosophical rant-

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"they are philos (brotherly love), eros (passionate love), and agape (unselfish, self-sacrificing love) my personal belief is that they form a sort of triangle, with each type as a point. the point in the very center is true love, a perfect balance of friendship, passion, and self-sacrifice"

To continue Jannel's point!  mmm 4 years later.

I think the assumption is that "in love" is an intimate love saved for someone you are interested in having a dating or marriage relationship with.  With this assumption you have the lessons taught of monogamy as we grow up.  We grow up thinking cheating is a bad thing, which I feel is the case.  It feels wrong to be "in love" with more than one person.  To talk specifically about capability, I definitely think its possible.  Yet, like Christopher noted, not without a cost in quality.  I know I am selfish with my "in love" needs and wouldn't want to have to share it with another person.

Love is not a single plain emotion, but three dimensional and full of robust capabilities.  I think true love falls best in this defintion. "Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13.

Sorry for the tardiness in posting, but I wasn't even a PIP member until recently.  Great question SEA!
 
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