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Sunshine
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0 posted 2000-08-13 10:25 AM


OK...what does make up a true romantic?

And, how does one tell the real from the wanna-be?

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Poet deVine
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1 posted 2000-08-13 12:35 PM


Romantic? I think it's in the eye of the beholder..what I think is romantic someone else may not like...

Sometimes people are referred to as romantics because they like 'happy endings' and that they are being realist! So are true romantics unrealistic?

good question!

Paula Finn
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2 posted 2000-08-13 07:51 PM


I agree with Ms deVine...just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder so is the romantic heart...what I feel is romantic may not suit you...in fact I would guarantee it lol. You have to decide for yourself
RainbowGirl
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3 posted 2000-08-13 08:25 PM


Oh Sunshine...what have you let yourself in for..*g*

It's that deep, ever so deep feeling that you will work things out, it's sending notes, keeping love alive with play, with honesty with the merest touch of a fingertip that you feel the love connecting, time over time over time again...when you can argue one minute and laugh the next, it's deep rooted affection and without a doubt it's making time to let your partner know that he or she is still so very attractive to you, organising surprise trips, telling the boss of your partner...ooops, I mean asking the boss...LOL...to let your partner have time off without them knowing, packing the scret bag and whisking them away...it's about that smile that registers in your heart and shines out in your eyes that between you, you will work things out, you'll have fun and you'll argue but always, always, you'll be there - for each other, to laugh, to share both good and bad and to grow both seperately and together, to give each other space and to enjoy and keep enjoying each other...    

I did warn you...*g*

As to what tells the true romantic apart from the wannabe?...The only answer can be, when you keep working at it, the wannabe's let it go...

There is not a single rainbow that I woudn't strive to reach to find, in order to give all that I feel...I cannot, simply cannot walk away, from a love that I feel but ...I have had to package it up, sit on the lid, and turn the key the wrong way round to exit the doorway of happiness...if only I and my heart...I swear, you would each wake up to a rainbow every single day of your lives...one that would reach into your heart, make you smile, force you to recognise, that something wonderful had happened .....ooops, guess I believe that a partner is the sun to your moon, the day to your night, the hand that you hold although your life, the cuddle that says, "I love you, sleep tight, sweet dreams!

HUSG



[This message has been edited by RainbowGirl (edited 08-13-2000).]

Sven
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4 posted 2000-08-13 09:40 PM


Sunshine,
          you know that I couldn't let this one go did you??

Well, I have to say that Rainbow Girl has about covered it all. . . but let me just echo some of her words. . .

Being a Romantic (for me) means believing that love, no matter how impossible, how improable, or how unrealistic it might be. . . will always win out in the end. . .

Love is the Romantics fuel. . . it is his life, his blood, it gets him up every day and sleeps with him at night. . . he sees it everywhere. . . in the trees, in the eyes of everyone he sees, everyone he meets. . . everyone he knows. . . he knows that all of us have loved at least once in our lives, and that, although it may have been painful, that it was a wonderful experience. . .

Love is what he has to give. . . but not just an ordinary love, it's an all-encompassing love, a love that defies description. . . a love that he will give to the right heart. . . a heart that matches his own. . . a heart that sees love. . . that believes in love. . . that knows love. . .

This is the love that the Romantic has to offer. . . but in a world where Romance is seen as dead and Romantics are seen as a dying breed. . . fake. . . only out for themselves. . . he has much to fight against. . . but yet, he keeps going. . . looking. . . hoping. . . praying that he will find that one. . . the one that will make him happy. . . that will give his heart what it has been searching (sometimes his whole life) for. . .

And when he does. . . what a life that one person is in for. . . breakfast in bed. . . flowers "just because". . . constant reminders of just how much they are loved and honored and cherished. . . like the finest treasure. . . because the Romantic knows that he holds the most beloved of treasures. . . the heart of someone. . . and that it may be hurt and bruised. . . he has gentle hands and a gentle heart. . . and with those, he can heal a heart. . . by giving of his own. . . he has much to give, so he can spare it. . . and he does. . . sometimes over and over again, and sometimes. . . at the expense of his life. . .

You can see it in his eyes. . . in his smile. . . in the way that he carries himself. . . it's there. . . it's just that sometimes, we don't recognize it. . .

And, like RG said. . . you can tell the true ones from the wannabes because the True Romantic will always chase after his dream. . . no matter what the cost. . . he will give all for love. . . he will give his heart, his soul. . . his life. . . he will dedicate himself. . . for Romance. . . for her. . . for love. . .

This is what being a True Romantic means to me. . . I know that it might sound silly. . . but it's what my whole life has been about. . . you can see it in my writing. . .

Thanks Karilea for this chance to share with you. . . hope that it helps. . .

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That which gives light must endure burning
--Victor Frankl


RainbowGirl
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5 posted 2000-08-13 10:55 PM


Damn it Sven:   Are you free????????


ROFL, you said it all just as I wanted to AND thought but it's so late here and 'm so tired, but not so tired that I can't see that your words were exactly what I meant..

I hate this time warp....but love the expressions, laughter and closeness feel so damn good, who wouldn't want to be romantic and more importantly, who wouldn't want to go to sleep with hand curled around hand in the knowledge that you *both* cared, felt, loved - each enough...sleep is then so easy....you just do, or you just fall, safe, in the knowledge you ARE loved..!

Thanks Sven, romantic you may be but it also takes hard work, we just make the bad sound good to the unitiated..

HUGS

Rosebud1229
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6 posted 2000-08-13 11:09 PM


In my personal view what makes  a true romantic is someone who always wants you around no matter what. Just to be near you.
TO listen to you no matter if it's just babbling just because they care. To hold you close even when your not in the best mood.
To tell you your beautiful when you wake in the morning when you know you look the worse possible. A true romantic shows his feelings. Doesn't hide it lets it show to everyone how much they care. Brings home roses just because. Leaves I love you notes .
Makes them bubble over with delight at the mention of your name. Does things that they can't stand but does it just for you.
Delights in just the sound of your voice.
So many many things. Did I mention a true romantic often knows you very well because they make a point of what makes you happy.

Jamie
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7 posted 2000-08-14 01:09 AM


A person can't be romantic....
he or she must be a romantic.. it is either in you or it isn't .. you can act like a romantic and you can do some romantic things,, but you either are or aren't a romantic,, it comes naturally to some people ( and i feel i am one) to things that are considered loving and thoughtful things to do.such as, Giving your love a surprise;Doing something to make your partner feel special, always saying I love you,Kissing out of the blue,Taking a bath together.Looking at the stars, calling just to say hi and i miss you  and love you. Mostly someone who lets you know how important you are to them and their happiness and someone who makes you feel the same.
                



Jamie

Tu ne cede malis, sed contra audentior ito. - Virgil.
"Yield thou not to adversity, but press on the more bravely".



Poet deVine
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8 posted 2000-08-14 01:26 AM


*sigh*
Jester
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9 posted 2000-08-14 06:23 AM


G'day,
The word romantic covers a lot more than what most people would think.  It evolved from the Romantic Era (1790-1830 approx).  Newtonion concepts had begun to take hold of society and as a result of this, poets like Wordsworth, Coleridge, Reynolds, Shelley and Keats rebelled.  They wanted to bring back the emotion and the artistic aspects of humanity.  They were known as 'Romantic poets.'  Consequently, anything that comes from the heart and is full of emotion rather than facts is romantic.  

Have fun,

Jester

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10 posted 2000-08-14 12:35 PM


Oh my *sigh* I want the Fairy Tale dammit and I am gonna get it!


Sven you summed up what I always felt a romantic man should be.

Sunshine
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11 posted 2000-08-14 06:51 PM


Wow. Didn't expect such a wondrous response. And I see that I am not alone in how I feel, or how I would want the opposite sex to feel. I do like the fact that many of us suppose that the levels of romance fluctuate with many of our mates...but we still all hope for the ultimate in care, compassion and concern. However, it does look like some of us are going to hold out for the "real thing". I applaud you, and wish you all of your dreams.

Thank you all for sharing what I surmise as our innermost feelings.

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