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Abortion....how it makes you feel

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SorrowsMystress
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25 posted 09-09-2000 04:03 AM       View Profile for SorrowsMystress   Email SorrowsMystress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SorrowsMystress

Well.... I will start off by saying that I am pro-choice. I don't feel that others should make such a critical decision for another person- or even a complete stranger. But I have had one abortion when I was 17... under extreme circumstances. The father was abusive and had threatened to beat my child until it became brain damaged if I didn't abort it. I had a back-alley abortion done, and believe me, I have regreted it ever since.
Now, just recently, at 20 years old,  I had the same problem again. I was with a great guy, whom I thought I would eventually marry, and ended up getting pregnant. He broke up with me shortly afterwards, and told me to get an abortion... literally fought with me over it. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal... I had numbed myself emotionally so much because of the last one I had, that I thought that it wouldn't be that big of a deal. So over the next few weeks, I went on not thinking too much about it. But then I DID start thinking about it, and about the fact that I had a life... a HUMAN life...growing inside of me. Now, I must let you know that because of my last abortion, I have been told by many doctors that I would only have a %2 chance of ever concieving again (boy were they wrong!). So I began to debate with myself over it. "Is this my last chance...EVER?"  "Is my higher power PUSHING me to have this child?"  "Will I ruin some type of destiny for myself or this child if I abort it?" ... The day of the appointment, the father-to-be took me to the doctor, and sat in the waiting room while I went to do it...(It was the LEAST he could do he said... didn't even offer to pay for it). The doctor answered some questions, and then he did an ultra sound. I did not have to look at it. But something pushed me to ask to see it. So he showed me, and I started crying.  
  Needless to say I am now 5 1/2 months pregnant, single, and extremely happy with my decision.  Although the father is in no way involved, I know I can raise this child with as much as it needs and more!  I am still very pro-choice, but I DO NOT recomend abortion. And I myself will not get another one.  

  Sorry this was so long, kind of just felt like telling the whole story.


"It was my love that did us both to death. " -Sylvia Plath



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26 posted 09-10-2000 08:25 AM       View Profile for Beth   Email Beth   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Beth

Well thought I'd add in my two cents and while in some eyes i may be opening myself a little too much I still feel the need to say this. I , myself, beleive that under no circumstances that abortions should be legal. It should be made completely illegal. I know there are times when rape or other may have been involved but come on, this is a tiny little baby were talking about. I have a two year old daughter who i love with all my heart and I would die for her at any given time. I am also a single mother. I left a very abusive relationship...So abusive that he beat with a baseball bat when we found out that I was pregnant. he tried a number of times to kill her but didnt win the fight obviously. I have never regreted walking away and raising her on my own...My point being...There is always a choice to be made but kill a baby???...Why not take the proper precautions not to get pregnant?? Anyhow thats ME..No-one has to agree...

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27 posted 09-10-2000 11:15 AM       View Profile for Jeffrey Carter   Email Jeffrey Carter   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Jeffrey Carter

I just wanted to come back and thank all of you for having enough courage to tell your stories and share your feelings on this very controversial issue.

There are no easy answers to the question I posed in this thread. There may not even be any wrong or right answer, but we all have our own beliefs and feelings and that is what makes each of us unique.

Again thank you all for participating.
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women have no right to choose who lives or dies,( abortion is murder ).only god chooses whe dies or lives.
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29 posted 09-11-2000 02:24 AM       View Profile for Erin   Email Erin   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Erin

Being 18 years old, I think that if I was to get pregnant I would be able to support a baby physically and emotionally but not financially. And the questions with abortions after all the I have learned about it, I wouldnt be able to go through with it.

I have a friend who just turned 18, and is the mother of a 10 month old baby. And just a couple months ago we found out that she will not only be the mother of one but two. She is now 8 months pregnant with her 2nd child. And on the choice of keeping, adoption or giving it up, she decided that she will keep it. Living at home with her parents, working for $6.00 an hour is not my idea of the life. She is very catholic. But she said she didnt believe in abortion but she believed in pre-marital sex which is also a sin.

I am not going anywhere with this story and I am sorry that I rambled on and on.

But the thing is if you are gonna have sex then use protection. Then there wouldnt be such a big commotion about abortion.

And if you choose not to use it, then what can you say? You made a mistake and you have choices. But why risk the chance of getting pregnant when any type of protection is cheap. I mean here in Chicago where I live the government (from what I have heard) pays for girls to get on birth control. I dont know of anywhere else does it. But if its free or cheap it beats having to pay for an abortion.

Sorry about going on and on!!
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30 posted 09-11-2000 01:20 PM       View Profile for MMoonchild   Email MMoonchild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit MMoonchild's Home Page   View IP for MMoonchild

Well, I am old enough to be a grandmother now, although I never had a child, have never been fortunate enough to be a mother and  spend every available moment  loving my child.  I am an aunt of over 30 some and great aunt also, am  one of five children myself...the stories told above are all so heart rendering...I  believe so many things..that yes prevention should be a priority for those too young to be able to care properly..and yes adoption should be a major option..but I will tell you the laws in this country can make even adoption so hard for those who so badly want a child..to have to buy a baby..yes thats what it seems like when they  it comes down to money...  when  I had checked into it years ago it was over $25,000 to adopt a child even through churches and organizations...and that was an american child of any background...even more so   if from foreign  countries...why should that be...if  one wants and is capable of loving and raising a child that is unwanted  or not able to be cared for  why does a cost have to be put upon it..and even after  why should a birth mother  be allowed to change her mind down the road...maybe  the laws should state that the  birth mother should have her child with her  under supervision and  at the end of  so many months  her  choice is final....there are no solutions to any of this..only hearbreak for some and happiness for others...I would have given anything to  have adopted a child...or to have given birth to my own...and have made up for it by  being a wonderful aunt and caring for any child  I am around..with attention and playfulness to show them that they  each count in this world...

Maureen...sorry I know this was slightly off the topic  but I  would rather express the idea of the child after birth...not before

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31 posted 09-11-2000 05:28 PM       View Profile for Erin   Email Erin   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Erin

MmoonChild~~~I seen that you were talking about the prices for adoption. When I was a junior in H.S. (2 years ago) we read a story I dont know if it was true or not but in Ireland they would sell the babies by there weight about a year after they were born. The family would get the baby nice and fat to sell. And the family that bought the baby would cook it. I found that rather strange. Have you ever read that story??

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32 posted 09-11-2000 11:01 PM       View Profile for MMoonchild   Email MMoonchild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit MMoonchild's Home Page   View IP for MMoonchild

Erin you must be joking...
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33 posted 09-12-2000 04:31 AM       View Profile for Kirsty   Email Kirsty   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Kirsty

Touchy subject you brought up there. Personally I disagree with abortion unless it is for medical reasons. Even unwanted children, by there paternal family are always wanted by some couple that can not have children of their own, hence adoption. Maybe a giving birth to a child that you can not keep cause mental anguish, but let me assure you from the point of view of a woman that has been told she will never give birth, if I was to hold that child, it would feel more love than you would possibly give it in a life time
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34 posted 09-12-2000 09:30 PM       View Profile for MMoonchild   Email MMoonchild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit MMoonchild's Home Page   View IP for MMoonchild

Kirsty...how I do agree with you about  having so much love to offer if only in your arms...or mine

~~soft hugs to  you
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35 posted 09-13-2000 01:00 AM       View Profile for SorrowsMystress   Email SorrowsMystress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SorrowsMystress

Kirsty... although I had gone through both aspects of this conterversial subject, I do agree with you. I think that if a person didn't want the child, there would be someone out there who would, and could give it more love than any natural parent could offer. (this coming from a woman who had an abortion at 17, and almost had another one 5 1/2 months ago).  And let me add by saying that I had 6 different doctors tell me that I would never or had a very, very, very small chance of ever concieving, and now I'm very HAPPILY pregnant- doctors aren't always right. Maybe I should have gotten a 7th opinion *s*

"It was my love that did us both to death. " -Sylvia Plath



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36 posted 09-14-2000 10:34 PM       View Profile for rosepetals25   Email rosepetals25   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for rosepetals25

I have flip flopped much on this topic.  And the conclusion I have come to is it is everyone's personal decision. I know that me personally cound never have an abortion.  I would feel like I murdered a baby, and I know I could not live with that. However, everyone has different veiws.  I suppose the only time I completely disagree with abortion is when women use it as birth control instead of being responsible adults.  

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37 posted 09-15-2000 12:28 PM       View Profile for Erin   Email Erin   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Erin

Mmoonchild~~~I am being very serious. I just watched a talk show on abandoned babies. And some of the things that happened were horrible. Leaving the baby in the dumpster. God I dont know how anyone could do that. And I have read a book on "When Good kids go bad". And it had plenty of stories about teens leaving the babies in garbage cans and all that.
 
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