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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA 
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I've always believed that to really love others, you have to love yourself first. That being said. . . WHAT IS THERE ABOUT YOU FOR SOMEONE TO LOVE? Really look inside yourselves and tell me what there is about you that someone should love. Is it your sense of humor? The way that you make cookies? Your way with kids? What is it? For me, there's a lot of things. . . my sense of humour, my outgoing personality. . . and for some, it's my smile. . . There. . . I've said mine. . . what about you?? ---------------------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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Marina Member Elite
since 2000-02-10
Posts 2245Pickering, Ontario |
I think for me: 1. Would be my sense of humour 2. May way with animals Those would be the two main points. Marina |
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JP Senior Member
since 1999-05-25
Posts 1343Loomis, CA |
This may surprise many but.... My depth of caring and compassion for others Yesterday is ash, tomorrow is smoke; only today does the fire burn. JP "Everything is your own damn fault, if you are any good." E. Hemmingway |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
thinking.... |
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Colin Senior Member
since 1999-06-05
Posts 596Callington, Cornwall, England |
Now that's what I call a tricky question Sven! I would say.... 1) my openness about my feelings 2) the fact I am willing to listen to someones point of view and talk about things rather than ram my opinion down their throat 3) the fact that I'm a big strong roughty-toughty tree surgeon type blokey with a big soft tender heart tucked away inside they're probably the main ones anyway. I could get a second opinion, but then that's not what you asked is it?  Eric. "We are the music makers and we are the makers of dreams." - Willy Wonka. |
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Marina Member Elite
since 2000-02-10
Posts 2245Pickering, Ontario |
So Eric......where have you been all life??? LOL Marina |
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X Angel Senior Member
since 1999-11-07
Posts 1521Oregon |
Hmmm god that's a hard'un Sven... Eric sounds wunnerful! *wink* hmmm *thinking* ok I think I am a very giving person (contrary to claims of me being selfish by someone I know......), I love to make people happy, by a tiny gift (a baby sand dollar, a bit of odd moss, a pretty stone) or a small kiss, or a big squishy hug when needed, or a gift of my time.... I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that my sons KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that I absolutely adore them, that I adore everything about them, from their freckles to their blue eyes, to the way my littlest boy wrapped his arms around me in the kitchen one night after my husband and I had split up and looked up into my eyes (I was so stressed) and sang "Everything's gonna be alright, rock-a-bye, rock-a-bye" I couldn't stop kissing and hugging him LOL. To the way my oldest son is so tall now and can put his arm across my shoulder *sigh*. I do love them so. Oh and....how much I love my baby kitty Darjeeling  if this doesn't sucker ya into loving me....nothing will *wink* *nudge*I guess these things must be why I inspire such devotion in the men in my life??? I dunno really.... |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
still thinking... |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
Okay, I've got it now. 1. My ability to think quickly. 2. My sense of humor. |
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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
Trickly question. If someone doesn't reply does that mean there is nothing about them that is lovable? Then do we, as their friend, jump up and down and list things for them? If I say not one durn thing that I know of, will someone dispute it? I would hope not..clear this up for me and I'll answer the question. |
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Sunshine
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
LOL at Serenity...and at PdV for waffling... I'm not great at introspection, for all of my half-full optimism, I do not see what folks like about me, let alone love about me, because of this little inner voice that is so critical... but I have heard what some folks have said about me, and my humbleness will just have to leave you guessing... so by my poetry [and PdV, this is MY back door...] you'll just have to tell me what you think it is... Hugs! Sunshine ~~~Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. Helen Keller ~~~ |
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Alwye
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Member Elite
since 1999-06-16
Posts 3850In the space between moments |
Hm, a tough question indeed...well.. 1)My compassion for others. 2)My smile 3)The extreme amount of love in my heart and my willingness to give all of myself to help those I care about. *Krista Knutson* "Cherish your vision; Cherish your ideals; Cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts. If you remain true to them, your world will at last be built." ~James Allen~ "We've made houses for hatred...it's time we made a place where people's souls may be seen and made safe"...~Jewel~ |
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StarrGazer Senior Member
since 2000-03-05
Posts 679Texas |
hmmm my sense of humor , my ability to talk to virtually anyone (known for carrying on conversations with complete strangers)my friends seem to come to me for advice ... if only I was as good at taking my own advice as giving it LOL ummm uhhhh there has to be more hehe... I love meself!!! ok brain refuses to cooperate so those will have to do |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Well, I see that I have gotten some interesting responses to this question. serenity, I always knew that you were quick on your feet!!! LOL But I have a clarification for you Miss deVine. . . if you say that there is nothing about you to love, I as your friend will not list for you the things that I think are wonderful about you. It's up to you to see in yourself those things that I and others see inside of you. I can give you the mirror, but it's up to you to open your eyes and see what's wonderful about yourself. Only then will you truly be able to love someone else fully. . . So, take another look. . . I think that you'll see. . . --------------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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Janet Marie Member Laureate
since 2000-01-22
Posts 18554 |
well, I think that Sven-gators answer to Poet D just held up a few sweet mirrors to reflect him as well  but then we already knew he was a SVEEEETIE serenity sent me here... is she trying to tell me something LOL oh man I hate looking in mirrors... I guess I just flunked the class right there!  ok... sense of humor... NEED to please sensitivity NEED tenacity NEED did I mention NEED LOL ok Se'n... i was here.... now im gone *winkie winkie* |
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Isis Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-06
Posts 6296Sunny Queensland |
I believe that people love my laugh and sense of humour, my genuine love and compassion, they seem to like my singing, and that I'm a great talker and listener!! I don't know I may be wrong!! LOL I'll tell you this...... No eternal reward will forgive us now for wasting the dawn..... ~Isis~ (Goddess - Sovereign of the Spirit) |
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Justbleu Member Elite
since 1999-08-31
Posts 3329Oregon, Originally From Alaska :) |
Well, I'll go with what certain people keep pointing out that they like about me... 1. My Smile 2. The way I write(that I'm DEEP, LOL) 3. That I hang in there regardless of how I feel That's enough!! This is really hard to do right now, lately, considering how angry I have been with myself for the some of the choices I have made!! Bridgette "Somewhere, somehow, it should be possible to touch someone and never let go again. To hold someone, not for a moment but forever." Unknown |
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Cuddlez Member
since 1999-11-27
Posts 422Walla Walla, WA 99362 |
Gosh, now if I answer will I sound egotistical???? Ok here's three: I have strong opinions on most subjects... The fact that people think they know me when they know only a part of me... And what amazes me most about me is that the animals and people I interact with, whether it be once in a lifetime or once a second, see something in me that is worthwhile to love and/or like... Time flies? Say it not so, time stays we go. |
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Cuddlez Member
since 1999-11-27
Posts 422Walla Walla, WA 99362 |
Gosh, now if I answer will I sound egotistical???? Ok here's three: I have strong opinions on most subjects... The fact that people think they know me when they know only a part of me... And what amazes me most about me is that the animals and people I interact with, whether it be once in a lifetime or once a second, see something in me that is worthwhile to love and/or like... Time flies? Say it not so, time stays we go. |
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Irish Rose Member Patricius
since 2000-04-06
Posts 10263 |
my dark passions! Kathleen |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
You know, I've always found that when I ask this question, people have a hard time answering it. . . They look at the way that their life has gone, then they think that if they say something about themselves that they will appear to be self-centered. . . Have we really come so far that we can't look at ourselves and see the things that make us what and who we are?? Here's an exercise. . . tomorrow, look at yourself in the mirror. . . I mean really look at yourself. . . and tell yourself what there is about you to really like. . . just take 5 minutes to do this. . . I think that you'll be amazed at what it can do for you!! Thank you, we're out of time for now. . . we'll talk about this more next week! --------------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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Honeybee Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-26
Posts 5372Ontario, CANADA |
Sven, great question, and yes, I am having a difficult time answering it myself, I'll go by what other people say that they like best about me 1. My sense of humour 2. My hearty laugh 3. I am compassionate and giving 4. My eyes As you can see, nothing too special Take care, Melissa Honeybee P.S: And Sven, we love and admire you for your romantic heart! < !signature--> The beauty of poetry gives me wings to fly [This message has been edited by Melissa Honeybee (edited 07-06-2000).] |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Hey Melissa, why not take a look at yourself and see yourself as you do. . . and not as others. . . I know that it's hard, but I know that you can do it. . . you have it in you my friend. . . ------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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ESP Member Elite
since 2000-01-25
Posts 2556Floating gently on a cloud.... |
1) My perseverance 2) My ability to love unconditionally. 3) The way I accept who I am Are these strange? Anyway....thanks for the question, Sven!! Love and hugs, Lizzie "Poetry is the true expression of my soul, it is my ultimate means of communication. It is my rainbow of delight." |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
No ESP, those aren't strange. . .they're wonderful. . . It's what YOU feel that you love about yourself that someone else would love. . . like I said, we have to love ourselves (meaning we have to LEARN to love ourselves) before we can really love others. . . You have found some excellent things ESP, you obviously have a lot to offer!!! ------------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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Honeybee Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-26
Posts 5372Ontario, CANADA |
Fine, then I guess that I like my sense of humour and that I'm good with children, everything else, I am very critical of about myself. I'm my own worst enemy, I can never please myself. Is that an acceptable answer now? Take care, Melissa Honeybee< !signature--> The beauty of poetry gives me wings to fly [This message has been edited by Melissa Honeybee (edited 07-08-2000).] |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Much better Melissa. . . yes, you're right. . .we can be our own worst enemies a lot of the time. . . when we begin to listen to what others say about us. . .especially the negative things. . . we can start to believe them. . . That's why we have to listen to our own voices. . . the ones that tell us that we're special. . .that we are wonderful. . . they're the ones that we should be listening to. . . it's just that we worry about what OTHERS think. . . when it's what WE think that counts!!! Good job Melissa!!! ----------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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SpitFire Member Elite
since 2000-04-19
Posts 2396 |
~"WHAT IS THERE ABOUT YOU FOR SOMEONE TO LOVE?"~ ~my openmindedness ~my strength ~my playfullness ~my nurturing tendencies ~my freckles. *Cool Sven,..that was neat. *Peace. |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Same to you Spitfire. . .those are wonderful qualities. . . and I'm sure that whoever you have to love sees those!! Thanks to everybody so far for making this a good discussion!!! ------------------------------------------------- That which gives light must endure burning --Victor Frankl |
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kaile
since 2000-02-06
Posts 5146singapore |
excellent advice here,Sven..hmmm what do i like about myself?hmmm... well,the things i am that i like: 1)the way i can try to find the silver lining in the dark cloud 2)a good loser...i will still smile graciously when i am defeated 3)my sense of humour(though this makes me look like a 5-year old kid at times...and yes,that does mean i can take crappy jokes directed at me) 4)me being a good listener(not a good counseller though) well,thats ME, Sven..thanx 4 this opportunity to reflect on myself |
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