Member Rara Avis
First ask the school what they do to help those that exceed the grade level. What can they do to help him advance or be recognized as a gifted student. Do they support any programs that would help gifted students?
My son was also the same. He was always complaining he was bored. We moved a lot, so in the south, I brought this to his teachers attention, and they just looked at it, as he wasn't turning in his work any faster than anyone else. hmmmn...
Then we moved to Colorado, my son was learning algebra at the age of like 6. I taught it to him. He can pull numbers up, very quickly all in his head. I loved Math, but was no genius at it. He excells in Math, and writing (Language Arts). In Colorado, I had 2 teachers who finally recognized this, and went to great lengths to get him recognized as a gifted student, before of course, we moved again. At least now, it's in his records and follows him all through school.
Honestly, if you can find some way to keep him in private school I would do it. They had programs in Colorado where a teacher would come in and work with all the children, but challenge the gifted ones. I liked it much. Tho' I can't say I find that here. He is very good, very smart, the only thing is he's going into 6th grade now, and just won't work up to his potential. He can pull straight A's, but he don't. He gets very good grades, but he's disorganized, and that's what hurts him.
So if you can keep your son in a place where he's encouraged to be him, I would do it. Unless you ask a lot of questions of the Public school and see what they have to offer him.
What a dilemma...I hope you find some middle ground! What about trading car pooling days, and just opening a couple of days a bit later?