Member Rara Avis
Ok, where do I start?
My daughter is 7 years old. She has/had a best friend. This best friend Jodi, and my daughter, Ashley have been together for over a year now. They always played together on recess and called each other on the phone. They were the best of friends.
Some problems arose, my daughter would come home in tears, so broken hearted because of something Jodi did to her. She would all of a sudden not play with her, or not talk with her at all. Ashley would say she didn't know what she did wrong and would be so upset.
I encourage my daughter to talk it out, or write it down and give it to Jodi. Well, she has called Jodi before and written her notes explaining that this hurts her. I'm not saying my daughter can't be mean either. Times that she's called Jodi and once her mother called here after Ashley had called her and told her how she felt. Her mother told me to go talk to Ashley. That Jodi wants to play with other kids too and Ashley gets mad at her if she does. From what she tells me Jodi comes home in tears sometimes too.
So once again I talked with Ashley explaining you can have more than one friend at a time. And play with all of them together. Ashley said she tried to, but Jodi wouldn't play with the other kids. I told her mother that maybe they needed to write this all down and we'd exchange notes. It's not just Ashley. Her mother was quite upset about the whole thing. The last time I had talked to her about it, about Jodi, she told me well, ya know kids will be kids.
Well, I told Ashley to just leave Jodi alone and go play with her other friends. That when Jodi saw she was happy and having fun without her that she'd come back around. Ashley did just that! And Jodi did finally call her.
What really irks me though is Jodi has been soley playing with her neighbor Shana. Talking about only having one friend at a time! hmph! So Shana this past week was off on vacation and Jodi played with Ashley and Ashley was really happy. Came home and told me all about it. (Though I didn't know Shana was gone until today) Today Shana returned to school and guess what? I bet you know! Jodi wouldn't play with Ashley at all. Her heart is so broken. I've told her again to call her. She was just bawling. She said no, because then her Mom gets mad.
I told her to talk with her teacher and maybe she can help. She also said no. I told her write her a letter then, and she cried even harder, saying Mom, she just stuffs them in her back pack and don't read them. When I ask her she says she forgot, she's always too busy with other stuff.
I told her to forget her, even though she likes her very much, just to go on without her. It's not worth all the grief. I said to play with her other friends.
This really broke my heart!
She said I only have one friend Mom. And when she's sick I just sit against the wall and do nothing. I said then go join in with the other kids that are playing. She tells me, Mom, they just ignore me. I said then ask to play! She says they still ignore her.
My daughter is a happy child. Lighthearted, smiley, easy going kid. (Just like Mom *G*) She loves everyone. I know she's well liked. I am just out of ideas on what to say or to try and resolve this situation.
I would like to see Jodi and her work it out, if her mother would cooperate. Ok, so now that I've bored you to death, do have any advice to give this Mother who's heart is being ripped out for her daughter?