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StarrGazer Senior Member
since 2000-03-05
Posts 679Texas 
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Ok, I want to know what you (yes, YOU!!) think about internet relationships and cyber love... is it something that is possible? impossible? have you ever experienced it? would you act on your feelings? or would you write them off as pure insanity? I'd also be curious to know any other feelings you have on the subject  It's been the major conversation piece of a group of my friends and I found everyones responses varied so greatly, I'd like to see what everyone here thinks too ! Mystical being which makes ink flow Surround me in your incandescent glow Fill my brain with thoughts and rhyme As I try to capture but a moment in time ~Shan~ |
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boo New Member
since 2001-11-29
Posts 7 |
Hey.... Well it's odd that you ask that I've been wondering the same thing lately. I was trying to find an old friend that I havn't talked to in about 3 years and so I asked this guy around her age if he knew her. Well turns out he does and we've been talking. We both think that we should meet cause he's only about 3 hours away and we seem to have a lot in common. The wierd thing is that I kinda would feel bad if I liked someone in my own town or did anything with anyone else. And I think this is wrong and shouldn't be happening. So after all that my answer to that question is I think it's possible but highly unlikely to actually work out because of distance and the lack of being around that person because people are totally different on the internet than in person. Ya know what I mean. Well hope that helped just a little. See ya. -Boo |
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kitkat Senior Member
since 2000-01-11
Posts 878Nova Scotia |
This is a good question. I think internet relationship is just the first part of getting to know someone. Like penpals. You get to know the person through their words. CyberLove is difficult. You would be falling in love with the words that they write and their thoughts. You really only know half the person they are. In its own right, that is not a bad thing. To really know a person truly, I think you need the part of actual physical confrontation. How they react to involvement with society personally. Its like a blind date. You talk on the phone they sound good, have the same interest as you. Each of you build an imagine in your mind of what you are expecting to find. Then you meet. Then you find out neither or one of you are not what you expected. OR you my find you both are very compatiable. So my answer is internet/cyber Love(friendship) is, like any relatonship, is a choice we all must take. PS- we took the choice to be here at Passions right? It was a choice I am glad I made. Cause people here are nice and friendly.  ) ) )-------------- You got to get up every morning with a smile on your face and show the world all the love in your heart Then people are gonna treat you better You're gonna find, yes you will That your beautiful as you feel.~~~ Carol King |
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amazon_lover Member
since 2000-04-09
Posts 491Dublin,Ireland |
HI Star! Its nice that you brought this out. I've thought about this for sometime and I'm sure that cyberlove or any sort of interaction without physical presence can get people closer but still its something very partial,like you send a message in a bottle.You need a hand to hold and you need to see the eyes. You can promise so many things over internet or phone but it requires a lot of integrity and devotion to live upto the dreams love has in it. To love a person he/she should be a person you can't live without them. And to make all these decisions you need to see that person and decide. Sincerely A_L |
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LoveBug
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since 2000-01-08
Posts 4697 |
Well, I posted a poem on this subject a little while ago. I have several internet friendships, and I have one that just might be the beginning of an internet relationship. As for love over the internet, there are pros and cons. One pro is that I don't have to worry about my looks (I'm very self-concious) when I talk to anyone online. I feel free to be myself online. But a big con is distance. Sure, you can talk to someone in France, but what if you want to meet them? Tricky, ain't it? Well, I guess what I'm trying to say is that the beginnings of love on the internet is not impossible (few things are), but I don't think that extremely serious relationships (like engagements or anything) are good on the 'net. Well, there's my 2 cents. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." -Oscar Wilde |
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Lone Wolf Member Ascendant
since 2000-03-16
Posts 5842Lansing, MI USA |
I think they are not always good......one is breaking up my marriage. Very sad situation. It is like a guilt free affair almost.....until they meet and things go much farther than that. Of course, if you AND the other person are single and no one but you can get hurt by this type of relationship, then go for it by all means. But if you are married and / or the other person is married, then maybe you should give a little thought to those vows you spoke once upon a time and have some values and morals. Stop thinking with what's in your pants.....use your head. Sorry if I have offended anyone, but just had to comment on this subject. it hits home....hard. Thanks for listening!! LW Friends are friend forever if the Lord's the Lord of them and a friend will not say never cause the welcome will not end. --Michael W. Smith |
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[BABE] Junior Member
since 2000-05-05
Posts 11 |
Internet relationships..... hm well I am only 15 and only been using the net for about a year now. I have experienced about 3 internet relationships which could be a good thing, but I think for me I have learn alot. The first was nothing just plain simple joking about but he still got hurt. He was more serious than me and therefore disappointed when I didn't feel the same. The second was a big mistake. I broke up with my boyfriend because of it. Although I don't regret this I think that I was stupid. I got hurt that time as he "called it off with me" I must stress that in both of these cases I did not meet the boys. But things have changed I am now in what you may call a "new relationship" with someone who I have met. Does this mean it is no longer and internet relationship ?? We'll have to see. My general veiw is that they can work people chat on the internet lets face it if you can talk for so many hours that is a great start. BUT be careful don't get carried away. If you have nothing to loose .... fair enough but don't go throwing away reality for what may only be dreams. Thank you |
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warmhrt Senior Member
since 1999-12-18
Posts 1563 |
Just a little note on this subject...when I first came here and posted in CA, there was a poet who also posted there from Australia. We became friends, and he told me about his girlfriend...in the southwest US. He had never seen her, but they chatted on the computer (where they'd met), sent daily e-mails, wrote letters, and made occasional phone calls. She contacted me, and made a few replies to my poems. Early this year, he made the journey he'd been waiting for, and last I heard, they were very happy. It can happen, I suppose. the poet's pen...gives to airy nothing A local habitation and a name ~ Shakespeare |
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Alicat Member Elite
since 1999-05-23
Posts 4094Coastal Texas |
Well, I may be the odd one here..or maybe I just love adventure...but not only have I had internet relationships, I've acted on them and have moved across the country. And, yeah, I did get burned on one, but sometimes feelings change. Not that I regret the drive from Texas to Oregon....got a chance to talk with XAngel, who lives not too far away, as well as see some of the beautiful sights this state has to offer. And, well...I don't like moving where I don't know a single person...call me crazy, but I feel better having at least one friend I can talk with in a state I go to. And, well, since I'm gonna have to move again, I checked with online friends that I've known for a while...the options were Michigan and Arizona....and I know how hot Arizona can get, so I'm taking the bus to Michigan.  My friend there, yeah she's female, is gonna pick me up at the terminal. And we are both mature enough to know that even if a relationship doesn't happen, at least we will still be wonderful friends. That's about all I have to say on that one. Alicat |
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