How to Join Member's Area Private Library Search Today's Topics p Login
Main Forums Discussion Tech Talk Mature Content Archives
   Nav Win
 Discussion
 Feelings
 Internet Relationships
 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
Follow us on Facebook

 Moderated by: Alwye   (Admins )

 
User Options
Format for Better Printing EMail to a Friend Not Available
Admin Print Send ECard
Passions in Poetry

Internet Relationships

 Post A Reply Post New Topic   Go to the Next Oldest/Previous Topic Return to Topic Page Go to the Next Newest Topic 
StarrGazer
Senior Member
since 03-05-2000
Posts 696
Texas


0 posted 05-01-2000 09:34 AM       View Profile for StarrGazer   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for StarrGazer

Ok, I want to know what you (yes, YOU!!) think about internet relationships and cyber love... is it something that is possible? impossible? have you ever experienced it? would you act on your feelings? or would you write them off as pure insanity? I'd also be curious to  know any other feelings you have on the subject   It's been the major conversation piece of a group of my friends and I found everyones responses varied so greatly, I'd like to see what everyone here thinks too !


 Mystical being
which makes ink flow
Surround me in
your incandescent glow
Fill my brain with
thoughts and rhyme
As I try to capture
but a moment in time
~Shan~

Boo
Unregistered


Texas


1 posted 05-01-2000 06:56 PM       Edit/Delete Message     View IP for Boo

Hey....
   Well it's odd that you ask that I've been wondering the same thing lately.  I was trying to find an old friend that I havn't talked to in about 3 years and so I asked this guy around her age if he knew her.  Well turns out he does and we've been talking.  We both think that we should meet cause he's only about 3 hours away and we seem to have a lot in common.  The wierd thing is that I kinda would feel bad if I liked someone in my own town or did anything with anyone else.  And I think this is wrong and shouldn't be happening.  So after all that my answer to that question is I think it's possible but highly unlikely to actually work out because of distance and the lack of being around that person because people are totally different on the internet than in person.  Ya know what I mean.  Well hope that helped just a little.  See ya.
-Boo
kitkat
Senior Member
since 01-11-2000
Posts 892
Nova Scotia


2 posted 05-03-2000 09:46 AM       View Profile for kitkat   Email kitkat   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for kitkat

This is a good question. I think internet relationship is just the first part of getting to know someone. Like penpals. You get to know the person through their words. CyberLove is difficult. You would be falling in love with the words that they write and their thoughts.  You really only know half the person they are. In its own right, that is not a bad thing. To really know a person truly, I think you need the part of actual physical confrontation. How they react to involvement with society personally. Its like a blind date. You talk on the phone they sound good, have the same interest as you. Each of you build an imagine in your mind of what you are expecting to find. Then you meet. Then you find out neither or one of you are not what you expected. OR you my find you both are very compatiable.
So my answer is internet/cyber Love(friendship) is, like any relatonship, is a choice we all must take.
PS- we took the choice to be here at Passions right? It was a choice I am glad I made. Cause people here are nice and friendly.
)   )   )


 --------------
You got to get up every morning with a smile on your face
and show the world all the love in your heart
Then people are gonna treat you better
You're gonna find, yes you will
That your beautiful as you feel.~~~ Carol King


amazon_lover
Member
since 04-09-2000
Posts 491
Dublin,Ireland


3 posted 05-04-2000 12:24 PM       View Profile for amazon_lover   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for amazon_lover

HI Star!
Its nice that you brought this out. I've thought about this for sometime and I'm sure that cyberlove or any sort of interaction without physical presence can get people closer but still its something very partial,like you send a message in a bottle.You need a hand to hold and you need to see the eyes.
You can promise so many things over internet or phone but it requires a lot of integrity and devotion to live upto the dreams love has in it.
To love a person he/she should be a person you can't live without them. And to make all these decisions you need to see that person and decide.
Sincerely
A_L
LoveBug
Deputy Moderator 5 Tours
Moderator
Member Ascendant
since 01-08-2000
Posts 5015


4 posted 05-04-2000 03:50 PM       View Profile for LoveBug   Email LoveBug   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for LoveBug

Well, I posted a poem on this subject a little while ago. I have several internet friendships, and I have one that just might be the beginning of an internet relationship. As for love over the internet, there are pros and cons. One pro is that I don't have to worry about my looks (I'm very self-concious) when I talk to anyone online. I feel free to be myself online. But a big con is distance. Sure, you can talk to someone in France, but what if you want to meet them? Tricky, ain't it?

Well, I guess what I'm trying to say is that the beginnings of love on the internet is not impossible (few things are), but I don't think that extremely serious relationships (like engagements or anything) are good on the 'net. Well, there's my 2 cents.

 "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." -Oscar Wilde
Lone Wolf
Member Ascendant
since 03-16-2000
Posts 5900
Lansing, MI USA


5 posted 05-04-2000 09:19 PM       View Profile for Lone Wolf   Email Lone Wolf   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Lone Wolf

I think they are not always good......one is breaking up my marriage.  Very sad situation.  It is like a guilt free affair almost.....until they meet and things go much farther than that.  Of course, if you AND the other person are single and no one but you can get hurt by this type of relationship, then go for it by all means.  But if you are married and / or the other person is married, then maybe you should give a little thought to those vows you spoke once upon a time and have some values and morals.  Stop thinking with what's in your pants.....use your head.  Sorry if I have offended anyone, but just had to comment on this subject.  it hits home....hard.  Thanks for listening!!
LW


 Friends are friend forever if the Lord's the Lord of them and a friend will not say never cause the welcome will not end.
--Michael W. Smith
[BABE]
Unregistered




6 posted 05-05-2000 04:33 PM       Edit/Delete Message     View IP for [BABE]

Internet relationships..... hm well I am only 15 and only been using the net for about a year now. I have experienced about 3 internet relationships which could be a good thing, but I think for me I have learn alot. The first was nothing just plain simple joking about but he still got hurt.  He was more serious than me and therefore disappointed when I didn't feel the same.  The second was a big mistake.  I broke up with my boyfriend because of it.  Although I don't regret this I think that I was stupid.  I got hurt that time as he "called it off with me"
I must stress that in both of these cases I did not meet the boys.
But things have changed
I am now in what you may call a "new relationship" with someone who I have met.  Does this mean it is no longer and internet relationship ?? We'll have to see.
My general veiw is that they can work people chat on the internet lets face it if you can talk for so many hours that is a great start.  BUT be careful don't get carried away.  If you have nothing to loose .... fair enough but don't go throwing away reality for what may only be dreams.
Thank you

warmhrt
Senior Member
since 12-18-1999
Posts 1566


7 posted 05-06-2000 12:27 AM       View Profile for warmhrt   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for warmhrt

Just a little note on this subject...when I first came here and posted in CA, there was a poet who also posted there from Australia. We became friends, and he told me about his girlfriend...in the southwest US. He had never seen her, but they chatted on the computer (where they'd met), sent daily e-mails, wrote letters, and made occasional phone calls. She contacted me, and made a few replies to my poems. Early this year, he made the journey he'd been waiting for, and last I heard, they were very happy. It can happen, I suppose.

 the poet's pen...gives to airy nothing
A local habitation and a name ~ Shakespeare
Alicat
Member Elite
since 05-23-99
Posts 4277
Coastal Texas


8 posted 05-06-2000 01:50 PM       View Profile for Alicat   Email Alicat   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Alicat

Well, I may be the odd one here..or maybe I just love adventure...but not only have I had internet relationships, I've acted on them and have moved across the country.  And, yeah, I did get burned on one, but sometimes feelings change.  Not that I regret the drive from Texas to Oregon....got a chance to talk with XAngel, who lives not too far away, as well as see some of the beautiful sights this state has to offer.

And, well...I don't like moving where I don't know a single person...call me crazy, but I feel better having at least one friend I can talk with in a state I go to.  And, well, since I'm gonna have to move again, I checked with online friends that I've known for a while...the options were Michigan and Arizona....and I know how hot Arizona can get, so I'm taking the bus to Michigan.  

My friend there, yeah she's female, is gonna pick me up at the terminal.  And we are both mature enough to know that even if a relationship doesn't happen, at least we will still be wonderful friends.

That's about all I have to say on that one.


Alicat
 
 Post A Reply Post New Topic   Go to the Next Oldest/Previous Topic Return to Topic Page Go to the Next Newest Topic 
All times are ET (US) Top
  User Options
>> Discussion >> Feelings >> Internet Relationships Format for Better Printing EMail to a Friend Not Available
Print Send ECard

 

pipTalk Home Page | Main Poetry Forums

How to Join | Member's Area / Help | Private Library | Search | Contact Us | Today's Topics | Login
Discussion | Tech Talk | Archives | Sanctuary



© Passions in Poetry and netpoets.com 1998-2013
All Poetry and Prose is copyrighted by the individual authors