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JOY 14 Senior Member
since 1999-09-22
Posts 1419Wisconsin USA |
I'm feeling so lost now. Especialy with me! Whoever said growing up is hard, boy were they right. Everything is in a whirl pool that is spinning out of control. I'm trying to take everything in and grow up slow so I'll learn a little something, but ya know what's happening? It's all too fast. I won't remember all these confused feelings, I'm sure, when I'm older. Finding who you are takes a lot out of you, not to mention fustrates you. Like when I think I have something figured out and then I realize I don't have a clue! Know what I mean? Boy, I could ramble on for hours, but I know you all have your own probs. and these seem miniscule. I know, I know. I just had to get this off my chest. My biggest problem now that I need advice for, is my friends. I'm a quiet person, I'm not into sports, and I don't have a lot of energy, and I'm not head over heels for boyfriends and such. So, you could say I'm out of the loop. My friends and I barely share more than a couple of words each day, and we can't talk. It's like we are in seperate worlds. Or as my mother says, I'm in a totaly different universe than them! I'm trying to deal the best I can, but is there anything you would suggest I do? Sorry again, but I guess this needed to be said where people can read it. Thanks for reading. Joy |
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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
Though we are not 'of an age' together, I know what you are saying. And you will remember these feelings when you're older, trust me! It's great that we are all different, even in the times in our life when we most want to feel like we belong. Being a part of society in high school is the precursor for being a part of the the 'grownup' world. And though you wish you belong, you should rejoice in your uniqueness! There is a season for each of us....high schoolers who shine may not have a thing going for them in college or in the 'grownup' world...college student may not shine...until they get into the 'grownup' world..and then there are those of us who always march to the beat of a different drummer....no matter how old we are.. |
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Denise
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-08-22
Posts 22648 |
Good points, Sharon. Hang in there, Joy, just take one day at a time. Things will eventually come into focus for you. Also, no matter how old we are we find that we are continually learning or re-learning. I wish you the best! Denise |
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Alwye
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Member Elite
since 1999-06-16
Posts 3850In the space between moments |
Joy, I can definitely relate to how you're feeling...finding out who you are is indeed a hard thing. Especially when you think you know who you are, and then it all goes out the window..(but lets not get into my life here..  ) The advice I can offer you is to not worry about fitting in. Rely on yourself, appreciate the little things in your life, and eventually things will fall into place if you keep faith. It can be extremely hard to not fit in with your friends, I know that from experience. But somewhere, sometime, you will find where you belong. *Krista Knutson* As soon as man does not take his existence for granted, but beholds it as something unfathomably mysterious, thought begins. ~*Albert Schweitzer*~ |
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pen of passion Member
since 1999-08-11
Posts 234 |
Quiet is good. Most writers are introspective. I think thoughout life people want to belong to something. You're here at Passions. Ok, I know you can't go with us to the movies. So how about finding yourself some new friends even if they are different than you. When you show interest in others, others will show interest in you, and it's this uniqueness which makes people interesting. Here's a couple of suggestions. Try to find a mentor, someone you admire. Someone whom could learn from. People love showing-off their skills. If there are no activities or clubs at school that interest you; if you are old enough, try getting a part-time job or volunteering. Friendship takes work but it is a lot easier than maintaining romantic relationships. If all efforts fail, try shifting gears, concentrate on other goals, such as getting excellent grades. It always seems to me relationships happen when you are focus on something else. Anyway Joy I am still getting lost, and there are times when I feel I don't belong. You are not alone. |
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Nan
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
Nearly everyone has these same feelings at some time or another in their lives. Even those classmates who seem to always be the "center of attention" have inner insecurities that they hide quite skillfully. Take steps as you feel comfortable. You're expressing yourself nicely here on Passions. You've got lots of security with the cyber-world to protect you. It's important to be involved in "interpersonal" situations as well, however. You can certainly take this step at your leisure, but don't forget that high school passes pretty quickly - Don't let it get beyond you when you're not looking. Start with one friend - someone perhaps as introverted as yourself - and build from there. You'd be amazed how much more fun school is when you take advantage of its built in social life...  |
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JOY 14 Senior Member
since 1999-09-22
Posts 1419Wisconsin USA |
Thank you all sooo much for your great replies and thoughtful advice. Just to let you know, I have a wonderful best friend who doesn't go to my school, but only lives a couple blocks away, which is good! Without her to lean on I think I'd have probably gone insane by now. I guess life can be confusing and fustrating but I'm so glad to be alive and experiencing everything that I don't want to see myself complaing often. Thanks again! This place is certainly somewhere where I feel acepted and where I can be myself. All of you guys and girls here are the best cyber family around. I need you to know that. Smiles to everyoneJoy |
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Marge Tindal 
since 1999-11-06
Posts 42384Florida's Foreverly Shores |
Little Joy-of-my-heart~ With the sensitivity and talent you have displayed here .. I'd venture to say that you'll have no trouble waltzing through those 'teen' years with courage and determination. 'Quiet' is an admirable quality. Create your own 'loops' .. there are probably more like you who need to be reached out to ... reach and pull them into your circle of friendship. I LOVE TEENS ... and LOVE to sing their praise ! Yep, and it seems that just yesterday ... we all wore your shoes ! Stand tall and proud for your belief's, they will never let you down. Love to you. ~*Marge*~ ~*The pen of the poet never runs out of ink, as long as we breathe.*~ noles1@totcon.com |
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Dawn Eclipse Senior Member
since 2000-01-31
Posts 637The Horsehead Nebula |
Joy~~~ I've been in some similar situations. Growing up is hard! I fully agree with you. If you think things are going to fast, my suggestion to you is to concentrate on what you think is most important. Concentrate on the most valuable lessons and memories. And as for being quiet, is that necessarily a bad thing? I've been there too My advice, though it's probably not the greatest, is to just step back and see who you want to be. If you like being quiet, there's no need to change. If you don't, gradually try talking to people a little more every day. It does work... I've done it. Good luck though! Hope you find your way through your lost situations. "Even a fool knows you can't touch the stars, but it doesn't stop a wise man from trying." Harry Anderson, "Night Court" *Cassandra Roseen* |
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JOY 14 Senior Member
since 1999-09-22
Posts 1419Wisconsin USA |
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X Angel Senior Member
since 1999-11-07
Posts 1521Oregon |
You know I am the type of person that needs downtime every day. Some peace and quiet and just time to recharge my batteries  You're not odd, just special. And so are all these wonderful people who took time and cared enough to reply to your post! *smile* ~Heather |
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Justbleu Member Elite
since 1999-08-31
Posts 3329Oregon, Originally From Alaska :) |
High school for me was a few years ago for me!! But, I am still trying to figure myself out!! LOL!! I thought when I became an adult that everything would be clear, some things can be but everyday I find I am always growing, learning, and changing!! It is a lifelong process, and I agree with the above!! Hang in there through the lows in your life and be thankful for the highs!! HUGS!! Bridgette  "Somewhere, somehow, it should be possible to touch someone and never let go again. To hold someone, not for a moment but forever." Unknown |
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annele New Member
since 2000-07-15
Posts 9 |
believe me ur not the only one feelings like everythign is weird..i am not about to sit here and tell you that its all gonna get better...i will tell you that eventually u will find friends who exactly share ur interests and hwo are just as quiet and who dont go head over heels over their lovers...right now ur just being tested...live through it i knwo u will.good luck... annele |
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Cuddlez Member
since 1999-11-27
Posts 422Walla Walla, WA 99362 |
Joy, believe me... Everyone, even the most popular people feel the way you are describing right now. My advice to you is to find one thing you can do by yourself, that you can get lost, and retreat into to rebuild yourself... Mine is horses and going out with my best friend... My horse has saved my sanity more than once (sounds dumb, I know) But anyways, you got to love those best friends but enjoy life, too... Time flies? Say it not so, time stays we go. |
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