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0 posted 04-25-2000 12:39 AM       View Profile for pen of passion   Email pen of passion   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for pen of passion

Some people say you'll be a stronger person after suffering a broken heart.  What does that mean anyway?  Wiser, I can understand, but stronger?
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Sounds like something akin to rationalization, doesn't it???
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You get stronger because you learn to build up enough walls not to let it happen again. LOL. Strength in protection... gotta love it! If they can't get close... they can't hurt you.

But then again... that's all part of wisdom, too, ain't it?
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I don't know that having your heart broken a thousand times makes you wiser.  Wiser at what??? How to tell if someone is going to break your heart???  Does anyone set out to break a heart???  (somewhat rhetorical)
And, I'm not sure that "stronger" means building walls so that your skeptical of anyone who shows a personal interest in you.
I believe that stronger means that life is a journey and during that journey a lot of bad is going to happen to us (including broken hearts) and learning how to deal with the bad and not letting it drag you down to mental depths of whatever is important.  There have been many broken hearts because of the expectations that a person has in a relationship and often times these expectations are not realistic and a "broken" heart will result.  Stronger to me means having been there before and developed a more mature understanding of what "Love" really is (means) and being prepared for the rocky road that love sometimes takes on its way to "living happy ever after".  Strong means I can handle disappointment and pain of a breakup and live to find love another day.  Strong means I understand love is a risk that may not end happily, but a risk we take over and over because without love, what is there??????
Well, (smiling) this is one man's opinion and I have a few scars to prove that I have been there and got broken a few times.  It was worth it and i'd do it all over again.
Hope this is helpful.  Do not pretend to be an expert, just a person among persons, traveling the same road.
Best wishes on your journey.
dh

[This message has been edited by Danny Holloway (edited 04-25-2000).]
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Thanks, Danny! Your answer was MUCH better than mine and words which I needed to hear today. You certainly sound a lot wiser... and stronger.. than me...

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Well Danny, I am thinking "wiser" in that you have more realistic expectations the next time around.  Also perhaps to go slower or at least not be persuading to go faster; i.e., doing what's right for you at the time. I will confess to two broken hearts.  The second one wasn't any easier than the first. Was I stronger by your definition: not letting it drag me down to mental depths? NO! But I am cogitating...perhaps your perception is for men only. I am not saying men aren't emotional.  But it's been my experience that men appear to be more rational.  I am pretty emotional and vulnerable.  As Nan wrote, I am thinking this would be a rationalization, if, and only if, I believed a broken-heart would make you a stronger person.  I stumbled and fell over things just as much on my second as on my first.  In fact, the second heartache was humiliating to me because I was older so I should had been stronger, but I wasn't. Danny I do appreciate your reply.  Perhaps I need more broken hearts to build up my mental muscles.
 
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