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ESP
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0 posted 04-10-2000 02:09 PM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Hey guys!!! I guess you're wondering why I jumped back on my soapbox, huh? Well, I am merely curious about something:

I have read so many poems in these Passions Forums. How is it that so many people go through the same thing year after year? Everybody has to go through getting their first love...then losing their first love. It's great and then it's a pain. So why do generation after generation go through it?

Anyway, I guess I am being kinda silly...how else does one find one's perfect life partner?

I haven't been in love yet...boy do I want to be!! Why do I want to be? Cos everyone says it's wonderful...until you break up that is.

Well, actually, my biggest question is: Why don't guys like me? Am I that bad? I am 17 and have never so much as been out on a date. No, I am not queer before that goes thru your minds! Seriously guys have always disliked me for some reason or other. Normally that doesn't really bother me but sometimes I just wish I could be normal like other girls and have guys like me, you know? Actually I am normal but I just don't have a guy...will I ever get one? I wonder that sometimes!

Anyway, I can tell I am boring you with my ramblings  so I'll go soak my head! Nah, I think I'd rather read and reply some of the wonderful poetry in these forums. That's sure to cheer me up!

Thanks for listening!

Love and hugs to all,
Lizzie






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1 posted 04-10-2000 11:50 PM       View Profile for devil_tongue   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for devil_tongue

Dear Lizzie, you are not alone. Thank you for sharing your feelings for I no longer feel so isolated.

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2 posted 04-11-2000 12:18 AM       View Profile for Poet deVine   Email Poet deVine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Poet deVine

I'll give you some advice that I gave my own kids..no groaning! This is good stuff!!!!

In the Bible, it says there is a season for everything..a time to be born, a time to die...etc.  Well, I told my kids that each of us has a 'time' that's our own..if their time is not high school, it could be college..if not then, then it's after college...that we should relax..let life happen..and take opportunities when we can. Be kind and loving to everyone, smile and be excited about life..especially excited about the good things that happen to our friends... my daughter didn't have a date in High School...but she did in college..

So what I'm saying is..relax..give life a chance...  

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3 posted 04-11-2000 12:28 AM       View Profile for Denise   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Denise

Excellent advice, Sharon!

Denise
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4 posted 04-11-2000 01:42 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

You are so right, Sharon! Thanks so much for sharing that motherly advice with me. I won't forget what you said...I feel a whole lot better knowing that I'm not the only one without a date throughout highschool. Well, I have two years to go so for the biggest part! I wonder when it will happen.....
I am glad you don't feel so isolated, Devils Tongue.....I bet there are plenty of us in thr same boat, so let's enjoy the ride!!!

Love to you all.
Thanks again Sharon.

Love and hugs,
Lizzie

    
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5 posted 04-11-2000 03:57 PM       View Profile for Elizabeth Santos   Email Elizabeth Santos   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Elizabeth Santos

Lizzie,
Only seventeen? Gosh, with your love of poetry, you have so much more going for you than most your age. Your life hasn't even begun. Though when I was your age I felt the same way. But somehow I felt there was someone out there who would love me. But I didn't find out til well into my twenties. You can never compare your life with someone else's. Things happen at different times.
Only seventeen? Dear, you have so much time ahead of you. Live each day to the fullest. Be the best person you can be. Then one day, when you least expect it, love will come to you. It's worth waiting for.
Love ya
Liz
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6 posted 04-12-2000 03:23 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Thanks Liz! It's so good to be surrounded by people who care...I love Passions People! I feel so much better knowing that I am not alone and that I'm not so abnormal as I was beginning to think.

Thanks again to everyone.

Love and hugs,
Lizzie



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7 posted 04-14-2000 01:16 PM       View Profile for Danny Holloway   Email Danny Holloway   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Danny Holloway

PdV, excellent advice.  I have read many poems in Teen Forum and it seems that love is the "one track issue".  It must be an acceptance issue or wanting to be like peers.
They seem so desparate to have someone to 'Love" that they are careless with intimacy.  I raised a daughter, so i understand what teens go through in high school.  I gave her the same advice that you gave ESP.  Can't think of any better!
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8 posted 04-22-2000 01:18 PM       View Profile for sweetchild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for sweetchild

WOW! I'm a very new member, and I was just reading through the replys you guys gave. I just wanna say that I think you all gave great advice and I'm amazed at all you people. You're all so, so, um, great to each other. I wish I could express that better but anyway, I just thought you'd like to know.
               luv pleasently suprised

[This message has been edited by sweetchild (edited 04-22-2000).]
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9 posted 04-22-2000 02:36 PM       View Profile for Kurly   Email Kurly   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Kurly

Dear Lizzie,
I am 15, and I might say I still feel lot's of pain when I think of my lost love. I know I am young but I feel like my life began with her. And when she left life itself felt as if it stopped.
I hope lizzie, that you don't have to go through the separation part.
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10 posted 04-24-2000 06:11 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Kurly, I am sorry love has caused you so much pain....here is a poem I wrote one of my friends when she broke up with her boyfriend...I know it's not that good, I wrote it a while back...before I came to Passions..well here it is, hope you find some comfort in it:

One day, our eyes will be opened
And we will understand all of life’s mysteries.
What now seems so beyond reasoning
Will step out of the shadows and become clear:
Why trust is betrayed.
Why affection goes unrequited.
How so much sorrow can come from so much joy.
All we know now is
“There is a reason for everything”
The reason remains hidden.

Maybe it’s to strengthen the heart and soul.
Or because if we didn’t feel pain and sorrow
We wouldn’t appreciate the value
In love and happiness.
If everything was beautiful,
Beauty would seem mediocre.
If everyone was happy,
Bliss would be ordinary.
Sadness is not meant to take the joy out of living,
It is only meant to show us how wonderful prosperity is.

Don’t let this experience destroy your faith.
Feel enough pain to heal
And trust again.
Trust in life to take you where it wants you.
Trust in people because there is no love without trust.
Trust in me to be there when you need me,
I won’t let you down.
Trust in yourself and you will find the strength
To overcome anything.
In loving and trusting yourself you will become whole again.



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11 posted 04-24-2000 10:15 AM       View Profile for Forrest Cain   Email Forrest Cain   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Forrest Cain

ESP please give yourself credit. That poem
was nicely written and I tell you this
for every girl with a desperate heart
their is a guy. Just don`t confuse your
need for love with love. I was shy and didn`t
have a girlfriend until I was out of
highschool. Have now been married 25 years
and couldn`t be happier. Look around and make
friends because when alls said and done
that`s the best part of a relationship.
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12 posted 04-24-2000 05:51 PM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

These forums are so full of wise people!! I am blessed to have found it. Thank you all so much for being so understanding and caring and for all of your wonderful words of advice and comfort. I love you all!!

Love and hugs,
Lizzie


 "Poetry is the true expression of my soul, it is my ultimate means of communication. It is my rainbow of delight."
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13 posted 04-24-2000 10:56 PM       View Profile for pen of passion   Email pen of passion   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for pen of passion

ESP, that was a wonderful poem you wrote, and a wise one.  I am impressed.  Now, this part about guys not liking you; how do you know this?  Do you really believe this?
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14 posted 04-25-2000 11:45 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Well, my first year of high school the guys in my class bullied me. Thereafter until the end of year three they treated me like a disease. I ended up with a serious inferiority complex. 1998 my best friend helped me work through that and find my self worth and accept myself for who I am....thank God I found her. 1999 I guess it got a little better but they still made out that I was inferior to them, though by then it didn't bother me too much. Now, I am not at school till September and who knows what will happen then.
Well, I hope that answers your question sufficiently!

Love and hugs,
Lizzie


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15 posted 04-25-2000 12:21 PM       View Profile for Severn   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Severn

ESP...honey I was bullied at school too...and felt so horribly unattractive to guys - my self-esteem was low...loooooooooooooooooooow!

I am 25 now and have a few relationships under my belt - still haven't found 'Mr perfect' (no such thing - lol)...

While it is true that in time there is a high probability/almost certainty that you are going to find your first love, what matters is now and how you are feeling.

I believe your feelings to be totally normal and understandable and in light of that the best piece of advice I have is that if you look for love it will not come so easily...I don't know why that is true, but it is. Love is designed to surprise...to whip you out of the mundane...it is more exciting that way.

There are many years between 17 and 25...love WILL come for you - I know that...let it come when it sneaks up behind you, don't search out its hiding place.

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16 posted 04-26-2000 08:35 AM       View Profile for pen of passion   Email pen of passion   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for pen of passion

I am sorry to hear what these guys did to you.  Your friend was a blessing.  I feel that is the key:  self-worth and acceptance, for when you love yourself, it doesn't matter what others say.  Also, when you start believing in yourself, you can change your experience.  People react differently to you. lol
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17 posted 04-26-2000 06:47 PM       View Profile for JOY 14   Email JOY 14   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit JOY 14's Home Page   View IP for JOY 14

Lizzie,
I have felt the exact same way.  I'm a little younger than you, but gosh, I know what you mean.  I think all these smart people are right.  You and I, our lives are just begining and love may be just be waiting, ready when the time is right.

  Hang in there.  I often wonder if boys are interested in me, because they sure don't show it...but I doubt males don't like you.  You just haven't found the right one yet.  

Be good! LOL!!!!!
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18 posted 04-26-2000 08:15 PM       View Profile for 7   Email 7   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for 7

"How is it that so many people go through the same thing year after year? Everybody has to go through getting their first love...then losing their first love. It's great and then it's a pain. So why do generation after generation go through it?" pleaded ESP.

You really have to know pain in order to know pleasure. Of course, that can be a chicken/egg debate (is a baby's first thought one of pain or one of pleasure?) but what I mean is that it's a cycle. You love and you lose... but then you love again. I'm sure that's all been said though.

I'm seventeen as well, and I had never had a boyfriend until this year. Now I've had three "official" boyfriends and a few random hook-ups (which got me absolutely NOWHERE), and while I haven't found true love I have learned a great deal. The relationship process is intriguing... you meet... someone feels something... one/both try to figure out how the other feels... there may be a chase... someone may be "hard to get"... then something happens and you're "together"... then more stuff happens, you might go through all that "does he love me?" stuff or the cute puppy love stuff... then one/both likes someone else or just starts not to like the other person anymore... then there's a breakup, which sucks... then there's a closure period... then, eventually, the cycle begins again, with someone else.

Or, the breaking up part never happens and you get married and have two and a half kids and a picket fence. But more often than not, it ends with a breakup.

My point is that each relationship is a lesson, a "practice," if I may, for your true love. For example, because I'd never gone through it before, it was very difficult for me to build my first relationship because I was so nervous and unsure. But the second time I was more confident, because I'd gone through it before... "you live, you learn" they say.

I feel almost like I'm talking to myself, but before I had ever had a relationship. I wish I could tell my last-year self that I have nothing to fear, that it's not that I'm unattractive or pathetic but simply that I'm not ready. Just because you're the "right" age to start dating doesn't mean you're necesarily ready. And not being ready doesn't make you immature. It just makes you you.

And, if I were talking to my last-year self, I wouldn't believe my this-year self because you can't really know without going through it. I don't mean you know nothing... damn, I'm really digging myself a hole here. I hope you know what I mean, and I hope you figure out "why."

Best wishes
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19 posted 04-29-2000 02:42 PM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Dear everyone,

I just have to say thank you for all your replies...it's wonderful to feel so surrounded by caring, kind and may I also say wonderful people. I am not alone...what a warm feeling that is. There is nothing like feeling cared about. Thank you a million times!! I love you all!

Love and hugs,
Lizzie


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20 posted 04-29-2000 11:33 PM       View Profile for Marilyn   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Marilyn

Dearest Lizzy...Believe it or not...This lady didn't have a real date until she was 20 years old. In highschool I was very guys pal and they enjoyed my company but I was not the dating material (so to speak). I had other interests, basketball, baseball, volleyball, my friends, volenteering at the local hospital. When my time came, there was no stopping the tide of interested male parties. Even now that I am single again (I hate dating...lol. I have forgotten how to do it) I can find interested parties if I really took an interest.

The thing to do is concentrate on you. Find out who you are and where your life is going. Enjoy the journey my dear friend, it is much to short to worry about such a thing. Believe me, true love will come and when it does it will be worth the wait.

Love ya. ((hug))

Marilyn.
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21 posted 04-30-2000 06:45 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Thank you Marilyn....thank you for caring in so many ways.

Love and hugs,
Lizzie


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22 posted 04-30-2000 09:58 AM       View Profile for Marge Tindal   Email Marge Tindal   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Marge Tindal's Home Page   View IP for Marge Tindal

ESP-Lizzie~
Having read that you're seventeen just blows me away ... your replies to the poetry here is indicative of maturity far beyond your calendar years.

The nicest thing I can tell you is that love will come when you least expect it.  I look back at my high school years with much pleasure in the friendships I formed. I've taken those friendships forward with me in my life.

These are remarkable years for you to grow in and when 'it' comes you'll see what we mean.  Honest !  
Love ya'
~*Marge*~



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23 posted 04-30-2000 11:47 AM       View Profile for ESP   Email ESP   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ESP

Dear Marge,

Thank you for replying to this post(the no of replies so caring has really warmed my heart). I carry what you said in my heart and really, since coming to Passions I have decided that living for the moment is best!!
Well, I guess I'll see you around the forums!

Love and hugs,
Lizzie


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24 posted 07-31-2002 12:37 AM       View Profile for Jenn Cirrincione   Email Jenn Cirrincione   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Jenn Cirrincione

Ahhhhhh, yes. Well, my "blossoming" didn't occur until right around 17 or so, and you know what? Relationships are a lot of hard work. Love is still proving evasive to me, and as soon as I think things are going well in that area, something turns around and karma bites me in the butt. Unfortunatly, sometimes I wish I never had a date, I might be better off...lol

No but in all seriousness, treasure your freedom and have confidence in who you are; true love will come when you aren't even looking for it. Trust.

Why is it that we are at our most ingenius only when trying to destroy the things that keep us alive and thriving?

 
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