Muncie, IN, USA
how has the 18 months boyfriend treated you within that time? if this is his only slip-up, and he's truly sorry, then maybe forgive him. the fact that his family cares about you is very nice, but you don't have to date them. in my 5ish years of dating experience (i'm almost 20 now) i have learned a few things. many are slightly cynical, but they might help. here goes:
people don't ususally change- if they cheat once, they will cheat again. if they hit you once, they will again.
just because you feel like you love someone doesn't mean that you really do. you may look back in three years or even six months and realize that you didn't ever feel so strongly about that person as the one you're with now.
high school relationships last about 2% of the time. college relationships maybe 20%. if it doesn't work out, that's okay, it doesn't need to. love will happen when it's good and ready.
to learn what you want in a relationship, you must know yourself. take time and be just you- not part of a dating unit. i went form boyfriend to boyfriend to boyfriend in high school, but between my frosh and soph years of college (this past summer) i spent a lot of time single and with a long distance boyfriend. i got to know what i wanted, and who i was, and for the first time, i and the rest of the world began to see me as jannel, not as "tim's girlfriend" or "kc's girlfriend" or even "becky's friend." and i love it.
my advice- take a break. be friends with them all, but say that you're not ready for a relationship quite yet. or try to be witht the guy you're with now. but don't take it way too seriously.
if you ever need some advice or want someone to talk to, you can e-mail me. good luck!!!
Dont wake the dead,
Wake the dying,
Don't change what you've said,
Change what you're saying.