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A Romantic Heart Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-03
Posts 5496Forever In Your Heart 
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Is it possible to deeply, truely love two people at the same time? Or is it lust or infactuation? How do you draw the line or tell? What if you think you love someone thinking and feeling that they are your soulmate and that love changes over the years, from hurt, pain, and then you meet someone who you also have that certain chemistry with,Do you ponder? should I have waited for this person? or I am with the right person and due to circumstances of hurt and pain it has taken some of that TRUE love away, maybe it is still there, but afraid to love that person, but can love the other person easier? Anyone feel this way? or have felt this way? "Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove. O,no! it is an ever-fixed mark....William Shakespeare |
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StarrGazer Senior Member
since 2000-03-05
Posts 679Texas |
well I don't know about everyone else but I think it is possible to love two people, three people, a zillion people ... it's love based on how the person makes you feel inside, knowing that they accept you for who you are etc... The soul mate question is a good one I was sure I found mine in my hubby but like you said over the years there has been pain and hurt and feelings just like faded away but I thought about it for awhile and I believe that we start taking things for granted after being around or with someone for so long we come to expect things of them perhaps the whole soulmate thing is overrated and sets us up to fall ~*Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear*~ |
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X Angel Senior Member
since 1999-11-07
Posts 1521Oregon |
I honestly think that true love stands the test of time, and distance, and any and all obstacles. It is something NOT to be toyed with or taken lightly or to take advantage of someone. Love is wanting the best for someone, whether or not the best is in YOUR best interests. True love will stand ALL tests, and come through unscathed. It will forgive ANYTHING. I even think true love can exsist between two people who are not together. Ever watched Shakespeare in Love? My point exactly. I say don't rush things, if love is true it will be there 6 months from now, 5 years, 40 years!  Just a thought ~X~ |
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A Romantic Heart Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-03
Posts 5496Forever In Your Heart |
I have watched shakespeare in love, it is one of my favorites, I agree with both of you, I feel that the person I am with is my true love, my soul mate, love takes work and devotion, and sometimes you have to take the first step to reviving the love the romance, forgive and forget. Love is not love that doesn't withstand and endure all, this is the growing stages of the relationship. I feel that all others could be temptations to distract me from my one true love. Thanks for sharing...I was just pondering the thought and have always asked this question before I met my soulmate, my muse. Don't misunderstand my replies to some poems, I love to joke around and have fun as we all do! "Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove. O,no! it is an ever-fixed mark....William Shakespeare |
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Jannel Member
since 2000-01-18
Posts 492Muncie, IN, USA |
i certainly hope so. i love someone, but, because of circumstances, we can never be together. our paths are so different. i woll never stop loving him, but i hope i may also love others. |
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Danny Holloway Member Elite
since 2000-01-15
Posts 2034Tulsa, OK |
Here comes a male perspective on this. I believe we (as humans) are capable of loving (being in love) with any number of people. Where was it ever written that we could or should only fall in love with just one individual. Yes, I know, the marriage vows and monogamy and all that, but, does a heart have emotional boundaries??? Are we to close ourselves off to others because of religous or societal values???? And, then there is the differences between men and woman which could take this issue much further. Why is our divorce rate beyond 50% of marriages and climbing??? Did John Smith (Morman I think) have the right idea??? Well, I blurted all that out didn't I. Romantic Heart, I think you have a good question there. Any follow up thoughts??? Best regards (hope I haven't offended anyone with this opinion or comments) Just thinking out loud. Danny |
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JamesMichael Member Empyrean
since 1999-11-16
Posts 33336Kapolei, Hawaii, USA |
Romantic heart I don't want to stray too far from your question...soooo...I believe you can love a hundred different people at the same time...if love includes the elements of giving and caring and nourishing those around us...now if we add the element lust that may or may not be love...it may just be a sensual desire to have a sex buddy..who we could become very attached to thru this sexual bonding...if we add infatuation...I believe when we are married to someone and we are going thru some rough times and our partner is not appreciating us and perhaps critisizing us...we could be very susceptible to someone new coming along and offering admiration while our spouse is offering cricism...at that time it would be easy to fall for the new person...as they would be offering us the praise that we would desire from our mate...I think many relationships have failed at this time. Every time in my life when I met a person that accepted me exactly as I was and never criticised me I fell in love with them...as soon as the criticism started my feelings changed. When we meet someone new, it is romantic and exciting. Soooo, if we don't get it at home we definately might roam. James |
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A Romantic Heart Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-03
Posts 5496Forever In Your Heart |
well first of all I was only talking about Romantic love and loving someone deeply with your heart, sex or lust has nothing to do with it....as I stated chemisty, conversation, a bonding of souls. I know you can love others, and I do, my question related to only relationship of male and female.It wouldn't just be because of hurt etc. I meant...if two people in the world had the same chemistry....same things you liked or admired in a person...or if one person had half the qualities you were looking for and the other person had the rest....therefore taking both to make one. This question is not related to myself I have serveral female freinds and one day at lunch the question came up and I thought about it for a long time. I thought I would ask other poets their take on the matter... "Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove. O,no! it is an ever-fixed mark....William Shakespeare |
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