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Corey Collier
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0 posted 02-25-2000 11:59 AM       View Profile for Corey Collier   Email Corey Collier   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Corey Collier

What do you do? Or think or even respond.  When the person your dating reminds you so much of your recent ex.  How do you cope with all the scents, deja vu and all the little things that remind you of her?  Just to lay down with your g/f and totally mistake her for your ex.  They might have similarities like hair, how small they are and their overall movement.  Almost ruining it by saying your ex's name but correcting yourself before it.  How do you get your ex out of your mind? What do you do?  It's not fair.  IT'S NOT FAIR!!

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1 posted 02-25-2000 12:06 PM       View Profile for childomine   Email childomine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for childomine

Corey- unfortunately many do go to people who have the same or similar qualities.  However, it does sound as though there's still a lot of feeling left for for your ex.  Be truthful with the current g/f, and any others that may come along during the transition period.  And, be honest with yourself.  It's an old cliche' but it's true- it will take time.  You will never forget one that you have loved deeply but how you respond to what was will change.  Good luck.
Dusk Treader
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2 posted 02-25-2000 05:25 PM       View Profile for Dusk Treader   Email Dusk Treader   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dusk Treader

It certainly is hard, and I speak from experience.. Even thought it may seem unfair and painful, the pain will eventually fade.  Try to think of as little as possible, remember the good times, sure.  Feel the pain of the bad, how could you not?  But eventually you'll understand why it happened, or at least I did.  Don't be unfair to the new g/f, don't be unfair to yourself.  Strength to you.

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In flames I shall not be consumed, but reborn. --
Abrahm Simons

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Maya the Brokenhearted
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3 posted 02-27-2000 09:15 AM       View Profile for Maya the Brokenhearted   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Maya the Brokenhearted

Time is the only true healer. You also should try to eliminate anything in your life (other than the g/f) that reminds you of the ex.
I, too, have been there...almost saying a name forbidden to my lips and then wondering why I even thought that name...let alone almost said it. I am sure that eventually you'll get the old g/f out of your system, and then you'll be free to love the new g/f with *ALL* your heart instead of pieces of one...which is unfair to YOU and HER.
Good Luck!!

 Shall we live to breathe again? Or simply just exsist in this limbo we dare to call life!
~Maya 2/20/00

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4 posted 02-27-2000 09:49 AM       View Profile for Brad   Email Brad   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Brad

I don't mean to be facetious but try going out with two women who have the same name, one right after the other.  That's what I did. One beautiful young lady was Marcel and the other was Maricel (stayed with her for two years).  Same pronunciation.

It's the truth.    

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