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Fear- How do we deal with it?

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0 posted 01-10-2000 10:35 PM       View Profile for Alwye   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Alwye

Have any of you ever been extremely afraid of something and that fear just seems to tear your whole world apart?  Or been so overloaded with fear of what may befall yourself or what may befall people you care about that it consumes you?  How do you deal with something like that?  I've tried a lot, and some things work, but there are just times where nothing seems to help.  A lot of questions, I know.  Just some thoughts running through my head right now.  Any ideas?

 *Krista Knutson*

~*Like a lion, without fear of the howling pack,
Like a gust of wind, ne'er trapped in a snare,
Like a lotus blossom, ne'er sprinkled by water,
Let me, like a unicorn, in solitude roam.*~ Hymn Of Buddha

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1 posted 01-10-2000 10:45 PM       View Profile for Maverick Wolf   Email Maverick Wolf   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Maverick Wolf

There is a time in everyone's life when they are so afraid of something that they are unable to do anything.  What you need to do is find the root of your fear.  You need to find what is causing your fear.  If you can eliminate, or at least cope with the root of the fear, you are well on your way.  If the fear you have is deep, and I assume your's is, you must find a way to live with it in such a way that it does not affect your life.  There should be no fear in your life that is so big that you alter your life to fit it.  My personal biggest fear is death.  It stems from a past experience.  I can't eliminate the root of my fear, but I have learned to deal with it.  I try not to think about it, and when I do, I get vow to not let it run my life.  I hope this has been of some help.
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2 posted 01-11-2000 12:33 AM       View Profile for Dusk Treader   Email Dusk Treader   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dusk Treader

Fear is a powerful force on us and impacts us in many ways.  You can't let the fear rule you, but such a huge fear is not easy to put aside.  I find that I need to take strength to fight the fear, think of things you like, do those things if possible or tell someone of your fear (I find this helps lessen the burden).  

And we're all here to help you, Krista, in anyway we can if you need us.  I always have ready to lend an ear, and I'm sure others are too.  I hope you find salvation from your fears soon.

 In flames I shall not be consumed, but reborn. -- Abrahm Simons

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3 posted 01-11-2000 11:41 PM       View Profile for WhtDove   Email WhtDove   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit WhtDove's Home Page   View IP for WhtDove

I don't know how you feel about prayer.? But that helps!  Let God know and He'll help you!

Where there is faith,
there is love.
Where there is love,
there is peace.
Where there is peace,
there is GOD.
Where there is GOD,
there is no need.


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4 posted 01-12-2000 04:04 PM       View Profile for JOY 14   Email JOY 14   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit JOY 14's Home Page   View IP for JOY 14

I agree with WhtDove, Alwye.  Whenever I have a problem or concerns I just send my prayers up to God and hope he can help.  

Fear can definetly hold us back from doing what we want or what we think we can't do.  I think the best quote that comes to mind about this would be from Shakespere who said..

"Our doubts are our tratiors and make us loose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt."

(At least that's the drift of it)

I just try to remember that quote when I'm afraid to do something!!!!!


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5 posted 01-12-2000 04:26 PM       View Profile for Nicole   Email Nicole   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Nicole

You've posed an interesting question, and one that I'm sure many people have pondered before.

I think that there's several different layers of actual fear.  For me, here's a few:

Fear for my children:  This is my strongest fear.  I find that there's always an underlying concern that I live with daily when it comes to my kids.  My daughters are pretty young still, so it's more of the concern for their health and welfare, security and piece of mind...that kind of thing.  My oldest daughter almost lost her life once, and that kind of fear is undescribable.  In that particular situation, my need to comfort her and help her fear surmounted my own fear.  I became very calm, knowing that would help her the most.  My head cleared completely and I was able to concentrate on what HAD to be done to save her life.  I don't know what caused this reaction, either it was God laying his hand on me and giving me strenght or my primal need to nurture and protect...probably both.

Fear for my life:  This has only happened to me twice; times when I was actually in true fear for my life.  If you're coherent, and concious...your primal side takes over and you'll fight back.  That's what I did.  There was a moment when I was frozen solid in fear, but something inside snapped and my fear was forgotten completely along with any pain that is involved in fighting for ones life.  Unfortunately, I can't explain that reaction either.

My fear of spiders:     Seriously, don't laugh! (lol)  When I was two, I got stuck under a house in Florida (where spiders are the biggest, nastiest creatures that walk the face of the earth) and they were all over me.  I remember it with clarity unmatched to any other memory I have.  Now, I have serious arachnophobia.  I can't even look at the little buggers.     The way I deal with that fear is totally day by day.  If I find one in my bed, I won't sleep in my bed for about a week.  If there's one at work, I *demand* that my supervisor kill it and/or dispose of it!  (he's wonderfully tolerant of these little episodes)  All in all, I just have to try and put the fear out of my mind so that I can function properly.

I'm sure this all didn't help much, but I hope it shed some light.  I think dealing with fear is totally subjective.  The ways that people deal with their fears is as different as each individual's fears are to another person.  The key is finding out how to deal with yours best, and only you can do that.  I wish you much luck in this, and you have my thoughts.


 May I never be too busy to help another's load,
Then I'll be drinking from the saucer 'cause my cup has overflowed.

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6 posted 01-17-2000 03:42 PM       View Profile for sweetcollege_girl   Email sweetcollege_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for sweetcollege_girl

WhtDove, and Joy 14 know what they are talking about. God can help you through all your trials and tribulations! All you have to do is ask him, and if you are serious in your heart, he will help.  

 "Superiority to fate is difficult to learn. 'Tis not conferred by any, but possible to earn"--Emily Dickinson-"Superiority of Fate"
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