I understand where you are coming from I have been on both ends of the scale, sometimes I will feel like why are they not responding, and other times I realize all that can happen. For one I have had many times when someone will ICQ me and I try to respond back and it just sits there and spins, and spins, and spins, drives me crazy cause I know the other person may feel I am ignoring them which is not the case. I know other people who have so many people messaging them that they have mega windows open all over the screen and they hear brring, brring, and think it's the person on top cause there's a new message there. Sometimes the person may be on at work and just cannot talk at the time, even the minute it would take to tell you that would be taking away from their work at hand. Another problem that exisits at least with AOL is there love for booting members and that makes it difficult to carry on a conversation, I say this cause yesterday I got booted almost every 5 or 10 minutes and I was trying to accomplish something at the time, and if people started messaging me during this time I would have had a problem. Well this was gonna be short and now I have written a story, anyway the moral of the story is looking at the big picture and trying to understand circumstanses that are at times beyond the other sides control.