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destiny502 Member
since 1999-11-23
Posts 57OH |
Am I the only one that is like this? When i talk to people on the internet, and they don't respond, i take it VERY personally. and Sometimes if i am talking to a person i have talked to for quite a while, and they say something that upsets me i'll feel horrible for the longest time and start to cry! I get a terrible aching inside and it kills me. I always feel terrible if i dont reply to someone right away..i just dont know..is anybody else like this cuz i sure dont like it too much. something like it just happened twice, and i am feeling really down. oh well i guess life does go on. Always, Heather |
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Severn Member Rara Avis
since 1999-07-17
Posts 7704 |
I think this is understandable, Heather. There is a lot of room for misunderstandings to happen - after all, we don't have voice intonation, or body language, or facial expression to rely on - just words on a screen, that we have to try and inject life into. I know that I get overloaded with e-mails sometimes and can take awhile, a few days - sometimes longer to respond to people - and I feel guilty certainly. (You should see my e-mail list now!) It is definitely easy to take silence personally, but as you don't know what is happening in a person's life do try not to assume that they feel you are unworthy to talk to, or that you have done something wrong. I am sure it is never that. It is dreadful that you feel so awful that you cry - in that case, if you can, I would suggest that you just ask the person outright what they meant by any statement that may upset you - I am sure most would feel awful themselves if they knew you were hurting! It is not always possible to reply straightaway, and most are aware of that - so just try to let that gently go...there is no crime in waiting for awhile.  Have a hug from me - and I hope that helped. K |
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Dark Enchantress Senior Member
since 1999-07-27
Posts 1258meet Morgana |
No you are not the only one and yes it's quite normal. You're just very tender-hearted and when you feel unloved or rejected it burns you. But don't always think the worst when someone doesn't respond to you. There could be many reasons why they didn't. I don't always get to respond to people because I'm so busy that I hardly get online...that's just an example. And if you can't respond right away you should try not to kick yourself for it because I'm sure they will understand. And if they don't then you can just simply explain why you couldn't. If someone says something so offensive to you that it causes you to cry then you need to confront them about it. Be honest. You can't allow yourself to be afraid to speak your mind. And if you don't want to confront them then try to ignore it. Some things just shouldn't be taken to heart. I know, it's hard to ignore things especially when you take everything to the extreme (don't worry, I often do the same thing and there are others that do it too) but with time it'll get easier. I can tell you that much...it *will* get easier. Don't worry about it, your not alone in this.  "Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." -Antonio Smith |
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destiny502 Member
since 1999-11-23
Posts 57OH |
Thank you both for your comments..I didn't think I would actually get any. I guess probably because I don't give many comments on others posts, but I never know what to say since I'm not a great writer, and all these poems I read each day are so wonderful compared to mine and I never know what to say. But I am glad that you both shared your comments, they both did help a lot. thank you so much!!Always, Heather |
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Isis Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-06
Posts 6296Sunny Queensland |
I too feel this way and more. When you are friends with someone and then they virtually stop talking to you completely for whatever reason. There icq name is there and nothing ever happens. I want to delete it but fail to do so for quite a while in the hopes they will talk to me. I especially hate it when you icq message them and they don't even respond to tell you what the problem is in the first place!! Shared sympathy and understanding (HUGS) Let your heart guide you. It whispers, so listen closely. ~Isis~ (Sovereign of the Spirit) |
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Randell Sivret
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New MemberPosts 1 |
Hi there ya all, Im randell and I am here too say that I feel what you all feel, cause the one that I truly love is in jail and I never use to know if I was the only one. Now that he is in jail he dont know if he's the oly one. is this normal...am i normal.... PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!11 |
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White Wolf Member
since 1999-09-18
Posts 371Somewhere in the vast wasteland |
Randell- You are normal. If Love is involved everything will be alright. Just need alittle faith and trust. Heather- First, I wanted to say that I do and have felt the way you are feeling. Second is a word of advise that someone gave to me. Never compare something you have done to what others have do. If I compared my work to others in here I would never post them in here. I would even venture to say that I am better at helping others refine their poetry than I am at writing it. If you ever need and help with your poetry, or need ideas for poetry then drop me a line and I will see what I can do. But most of all keep writing. Justin "Life's greatest mystery isn't the meaning of life. To love and be loved is the meaning of life. Now how to attain those is the greatest mystery of all." |
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Lost Dreamer Member Elite
since 1999-06-20
Posts 2464Somewhere near the Rainbow |
I understand where you are coming from I have been on both ends of the scale, sometimes I will feel like why are they not responding, and other times I realize all that can happen. For one I have had many times when someone will ICQ me and I try to respond back and it just sits there and spins, and spins, and spins, drives me crazy cause I know the other person may feel I am ignoring them which is not the case. I know other people who have so many people messaging them that they have mega windows open all over the screen and they hear brring, brring, and think it's the person on top cause there's a new message there. Sometimes the person may be on at work and just cannot talk at the time, even the minute it would take to tell you that would be taking away from their work at hand. Another problem that exisits at least with AOL is there love for booting members and that makes it difficult to carry on a conversation, I say this cause yesterday I got booted almost every 5 or 10 minutes and I was trying to accomplish something at the time, and if people started messaging me during this time I would have had a problem. Well this was gonna be short and now I have written a story, anyway the moral of the story is looking at the big picture and trying to understand circumstanses that are at times beyond the other sides control. |
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