The woman was a free lance reporter
in a foreign country. Her term “stalker”
was for men who were eyeing her more
as a woman than anything else.
I supposed something like men
at a construction site, who fantasize
with their eyes about getting lucky
with a woman they see passing by.
I suppose it's about "Everything within moderation".
To me, if a guy would look at me and think about "getting lucky", I'd never look at him again in the same way...it would embarrase me to the hilt, not to mention, if he looks at me that way, then, if he did get lucky, he'd move on to the next, and to the next.
Personally, I suppose I fantisize in a different way....a person becomes more attractive to me, the more they express and share, the more I get to know them. I want to know where they're going...what they believe in...who they are inside...and hope that men look at me the same way, or simply, always have believed they do.
Sexual connotations in conversations embarrase me....unless I've known the man for a long long time...even when my brother in law kids in that way, I can honesty say, I don't like it. I want to be enjoyed for my mind, who I am...noticed for what kind of person I am....not the kind of gal that someone "GETS LUCKY WITH". To me, thats degrading....
And by the way, I've worked with many construction workers that were more gentlemanly then a lot of white collar workers. Men who protected me, who were kind and never once suggestive. Matter of fact, if a new employee came on the job and he started swearing, my fellow cohorts would warn him, "Hey, whats wrong with you? Don't you see there's a lady present here". Now to me, that was a real nice compliment and believe me, it was never expected. It was just simply, who they were.
They were mostly married men. I worked construction for 10 years...and only had one bad incident...and believe me...the guy had a reputation, so my cohorts were watching out for me, when he made his move, he suffered greatly. I wasn't aware of this, until after the fact. So...in this case, respect was the key, and my cohorts demanded it. Made some very good friends with them and their wives....
End of story...sorry I got carried away here
but no, what attracts me to a man is his mind...not flirtatious compliments
Now if I'm dating someone, wull yeah...heck yeah, through em at me...hehehehe
But, that's just how I feel, and what works for me, doesn't work for others? I'm not saying it's wrong or right, simply what I enjoy.