Atypical Teenage Drama: help sought.

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IndigoEve
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since 2003-01-10

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0 posted 2004-11-16 04:48 PM

Lord knows I'm not good as this, but here goes:

On Saturday I was in my closing night of the musical, and I was coughing so hard I couldn't breathe. A certain guy (whom I do not know very, very well) took it upon himself to be the only one making sure I survived. Well, I did. So we're sitting backstage, and even though it's apparent that I'll pull through, he insists I stay. Kindly obliging, I sit next to him on the bleachers. I can't quite remember how, but somehow he ended up kissing me. I'm quite taken aback, and when I try to go again, he insists I stay and he kisses me again. And again. Interesting, but what's even better is that his GIRLFIEND is in the audience.

We had to leave for bows, and once they were over, I got changed and he followed me downstairs to the locker rooms (after talking to said girlfriend, by the way). To avoid a friend's sister, he pulls me into the weight room, where we are met by another couple who accuses us of "doing the same thing" they're down here to do. I leave, and shortly after, he tries to invite me again, saying there's "benches" down there. Now, can anyone think of what was going through his mind? Right.

After I'm finishing being struck with another coughing fit, he takes the liberty of trying to lead me into a dark alcove and coerce me to join him. I decline, and head up the stairs while he stands there. He asks me again why I won't come, and I turn around and tell him "You're a boy, and have a girlfriend *cough*". (I accidentally said that, but meant it only to say that I wasn't going to feed his lusts, not to say I was a lesbian. He probably misconstrued this.)

Things got buried from that point on, until today when I figured I'd better say something to make sure he doesn't think it'll happen again since we left o such obscure terms. I asked him why that had happened, and he said to me all evasively "Oh, it was just a friendly kiss." and says he has to go. I let him off easy.

Sure, it was. I believe you.

Now, will someone please tell me, is he trying to justify his behavior on Saturday as just being friendly so he might do it again? And should I approach him yet again and just lay it down straight that it was not justifiable on any terms, and it will never happen again?

Because, honestly, if it was just a friendly kiss, he'd have no problem telling his girlfriend what happened, now would he...?

Or better yet, me telling her exactly how things went.
HMMM.

Thanks for whatever help this generates.

If I were to touch you, would you bleed a velvet river, running miracles through the sodden ground? --Moi

[This message has been edited by IndigoEve (11-16-2004 09:08 PM).]

SEA

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Member Seraphic

since 2000-01-18

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1 posted 2004-11-16 06:28 PM

I guess I would ask you, did you kiss him back? Was it a passionate kiss? I understand not wanting to go off in the dark places with him (good girl!!!) but did you enjoy his kisses? Is that something you would want to have happen again? I have to think he said that because you blew him off so well. It's an ego thing, hon,and it sounds like you crushed his! LOL that is ok, some boys need that (as do some girls). I would let it go and just keep brushing him off if you didn't enjoy him. The fact that he has a girlfriend and did that shows you he is sleazy....or he has a bad crush on you and has no idea how to show that to you. I would say you should just let it go. If he brings it up, then talk to him. If he acts stupid, blow him off again. Hope that helps?? *hugs*

Savage Quiescence
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since 2002-07-29

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2 posted 2004-11-19 09:07 PM

Personally, I would tell his girlfriend what happened. If I were her, I would want to know. At any rate, I suggest leaving the guy alone unless he tries to pull another "friendly kiss" on you. Then (resisting the temptation to cause bodily injury) you can give it to him straight until he finally understands that you're not interested.

Either way, I hope both the guy and the cough leave you alone soon.

serenity blaze
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since 2000-02-02

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3 posted 2004-11-19 09:12 PM

Consider yourself lucky when you see what they are right away.

I'm mean, even if YOU could forget about the girlfriend as easily as he--

He kisses you after a coughing fit?

Wow.

I'd hate to see what a bout of nausea does for his libido.

GEEEEEEEEEZ.........

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