Member Rara Avis
Well now, it appears I've landed myself in another mess. I too, left the last forum I visited, because of the insensitivity of others (not that anyone would ever not like my stuff)
Anyway, in my own opinion,(and you know what they say about opinions...) I think the problem stems from both sides.
Side one: People are too critical. (Using the term as JP put it.) I don't know, or care, if it stems from a lack of self-esteem, but some people do seem bitter when responding to others work. Be that as it may. In my own personal belief, I stand with JP as to the difference between critique and criticism. I think we should spend our time critiquing, so as to enrich the respondants life, as opposed to disgruntling them. Remember, judge not, lest ye be judged. And though you may not believe as others, by making a judgement, you bring judgement down upon yourself. If not from God, then at least from the ones you've judged. And being the instigator, whom do you think will be judged more harshly?
Those who are being critiqued, or criticised could perhaps develop a wider breadth of understanding. I have witnessed a critique being taken as harsh criticism, when it is merely that the person was not "graceful" with their suggestions. Maybe if we show a little more tolerance, some of us would realize, that what the person is saying is valid, and not meant to be derogatory in any way. (Such as the case that started here! JP wasn't saying that free-verse people were not talented, he was merely expressing his personal opinion, and not in an insulting manner.)
Please everybody, I really have come to like this forum. It's much better than any I've ever been to, and I think the breadth of talent is amazing. Granted, I don't care for everything, but hey- taste varies.
Can't we just get along!!!!
...the things I did not know at first, I learned by doing twice.
[This message has been edited by Christopher (edited 08-15-99).]