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Almost Wholehearted
Junior Member
Posts 20
Pgh, PA

0 posted 2015-01-07 12:28 PM

I will grieve the loss
of my hatred

Not because my heart yearns for it,
like a lover lost -
or a child taken

My heart grieves
because I know that this hatred,
this act of never forgetting,
of never going forward

Was the only form of justice,
the only kind of vengence,
I'm likely to see

But my heart is heavy,
and my heart is empty,
because there's no peace in me

So I'll start the process,
the grief process

Truly

I'll grieve either way,
but I'd rather it be
for what was..

And not what could have been

I think our capacity for wholeheartedness can never be greater than our willingness to be broken-hearted." Brene Brown

Redstart
Senior Member

since 2014-05-16

Posts 535

1 posted 2015-01-07 01:30 PM

Well written indeed. I can feel your realisation that hatred is futile and self-harming. Yes, it can divert the grief, but only into anger. Good luck, top post.

JerryPat2
Member Laureate

since 2011-02-06

Posts 16975
South Louisiana

2 posted 2015-01-07 05:53 PM

It is difficult to render hatred harmless, but I fought that battle and rendered it not exactly harmless, but enough in that direction that I am now able to handle it with relative ease. Welcome to AD.

~*~ When they give you ruled paper write sideways. ~*~

jjote
Senior Member

since 2002-12-25

Posts 1088
Ontario, Canada

3 posted 2015-01-08 08:43 PM

You're so right there. Hatred is mere self-destructive, eats at your very core. It takes a strong will to move on and beyond it.

Good for you.

Margherita
Member Seraphic

since 2003-02-08

Posts 22236
Eternity

4 posted 2015-01-09 05:03 PM

Welcome to Passions in Poetry! You really have put passion into this first poetic offering. Peace will occur only if one is able to let go and to forgive (others and ourselves). Hatred is no doubt some kind of "deviation" we have all experienced in certain moments, but it leads nowhere and the sooner we realize this the better.

The future begins now.

Margherita

Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

5 posted 2015-01-09 06:44 PM

It is hard to let go of "what could have been" when we believe it held promise for us. You are wise and brave to let go. I've known a few who could not. Your journey will give you poetry fodder. We look forward to you sharing with us again.

JamesMichael
Member Empyrean

since 1999-11-16

Posts 33336
Kapolei, Hawaii, USA

6 posted 2015-01-30 08:01 PM

nice writing...james

Sunshine

Administrator

Member Empyrean

since 1999-06-25

Posts 63354
Listening to every heart

7 posted 2015-01-30 08:15 PM

Welcome to Passions. I hope you will be here a long time as you grieve, and relieve yourself of the very same by the process of poetry. It is/can be very cathartic. Please, check your email for a very special greeting!

"The business of the poet...is to show the sorriness underlying the grandest things and the grandeur underlying the sorriest things." Thomas Hardy

latearrival
Member Ascendant

since 2003-03-21

Posts 5499
Florida

8 posted 2015-01-31 08:15 PM

May a new world open up to you as you bury those past thoughts of anger.Life is so much kinder when we allow it to softly enter good thoughts into our own hearts.Best to you and welcome too, Jo Perry

tracie66
Member Elite

since 2000-01-18

Posts 4713
Australia

9 posted 2015-02-01 06:24 AM

well written, I was so touched by this piece! well done!

Love is the life of the soul...
It is the harmony of the universe
— W. E. Channing

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